DS1 - 8.4yrs
DD - 5.11yrs
DS2 - 4.1yrs
I have struggled for a long time with their behaviour for all sorts of reasons, not least that I have long term depression and was brought up in care - lots of moves to and from children's homes and foster homes. Pretty awful childhood really and I am in denial that it really happened.
We have tried rewards and really explaining that they behaving like this has meant they have got that and isn't that better than losing things.
We have tried punishments like taking away tv and computer time and DS1 currently has very few things in his room as he refused to tidy his room even though we asked several times over several days.
Yesterday DH had planned a lovely day at the beach so I quickly made up some banana and choc chip muffins and we asked the kids to tidy their toys from the lounge. Back chat and a refusal so in the end we didn't go.
Today DH had booked a surprise day to the railway for the boys (DD has a party to go to) with their Grandparents and Uncle. That has now been cancelled. They were awful this morning and DH said to me they weren't going but he really wanted to go so started getting things ready. I was in the other room and the next thing I know DH is on the phone to his parents saying they are not going.
I can't not take DD to the party as the birthday girl has SN and will be very upset so she will have to feel she has earned it back.
We are stuck at what to do.
I know I let DS1 get away with things too much when he started at 2 years old but he is 8 now and I am fed up. He is an angel at school.
Please help.
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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 05/07/2009 08:38
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