My eldest child - boy just turned 5 - has got progressively more shy as he's got older and it's becomming a big issue in our family. If we see one of his class mates out and about and they say hello enthusiastically to him, he looks horrified and just manages to squeak out a hello back. I think he comes across as pretty indifferent and not bothered about being friendly back. If any adult outside our family speaks to him - even ones that he knows well - he reverts to babyish behaviour. He hides behind me, whispers, uses a silly voice or answers their questions with his back to them. I think I was pretty confident and outgoing as a child, and his 2-yr-old sister is certainly happy to chat to anyone. However, DH is pretty shy and over-sensitive, which is why it's become a big issue in the family as DH blames himself. I get sooooo frustrated with my son, cos I just think, "Just say hello back and smile. That's all you have to do, it's not hard!!" Then I feel terrible for getting angry with him. I've noticed too that he's very easily led by boys he wants to be friends with and seems to do whatever they ask - at the moment it's only been small things like putting a jumper away for someone, but I worry what he'll do if asked in the future. I've spoken to him about standing up for himself. I feel terrible cos he seems to be turning into this little person that I never expected he would and i feel equally terrible for starting to feel a bit disappointed. Help! (btw, I'm new to this forum, so sorry if I've not followed all the rules!)
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My 5 year old son's shyness is driving me mad
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juicy12 · 03/07/2009 13:45
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