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just a phase

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MIAonline Wed 01-Jul-09 13:13:04

A mini problem I would just like a bit of advice on if possible from you wise MNers.

DS 2.5 has a good range of friends and they have always played well together. A couple of the friends, in different friendship groups are going through the snatching/pushing/pulling phase. Parents are handling it reasonably well and (mostly) tackling it when they see it, which is great, but it is happening soooo frequently and I can see it is starting to affect DS.

However, Ds is really kind hearted, doesn't retaliate or become aggressive, but it is starting to make him sensitive and ultra aware of others nearby and he seems to be getting upset when he is always really happy and settled. So my first question is what have you done in situations like this.

On top of this a mum of one of the DC's who does most of the pushing is now making a big deal out of DS getting upset and asking loudly about why he is upset and doesn't seem aware that it is because he is having to deal with snatching pushing etc constantly from her DC, I feel bad saying why I think he is upset as I don't want to look like I am blaming her DC and I am relaxed in that it is a phase that the other children are going through, and DS will probably go through soon too, but at the same time I feel DS is being judged iyswim. What would you do?

Sorry for long rambly post, mix of off loading and advice needed.

MIAonline Wed 01-Jul-09 14:12:20

Should have waited for a rainy day to post, you are all out enjoying other threads the sun. grin

MIAonline Wed 01-Jul-09 17:15:12

Last pitiful bump for the kinder evening crowd.

TreeTrunkThighs Wed 01-Jul-09 17:20:05

I think you are probably going to have to either ride it out. Or you could avoid seeing or cut down the amount of time spent with the one whose DC does most of the pushing. Time soon flies by and there'll be something else to worry about and you'll be able to get back to normal...

Just a thought!

3littlefrogs Wed 01-Jul-09 17:23:20

Agree with TTT. It is a phase and will pass, but you might find it helpful to avoid the worst offenders for a little while.

It is the other mum who has the problem TBH.

MIAonline Wed 01-Jul-09 17:38:36

Thanks TTT and 3littlefrogs, knew the evening crowd were kinder wink

It is difficult to avoid, but think I will have to do this if possible. I hadn't wanted to, as I really think that nobody is to blame and we would ride it out, but as DS seems to be getting wary and becoming more sensitive I may have to for a while.

frogs, I wondered if the mum could be annoyed with my DS as she is having to stop her DC bothering him so much and now he is starting to get upset, it is drawing attention to it iyswim. I suppose it is easier for us to believe it is someone else's fault?

3littlefrogs Wed 01-Jul-09 18:38:21

I think you are right MIA - but honestly - life is too short....

At this age, it is easier to avoid for a little while than to confront. It will all blow over in a few weeks anyway.

MIAonline Wed 01-Jul-09 19:10:11

Thanks 3little frogs. I know you are right and it is what I would be telling a friend, never listen to our own advice though..!

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