I'm not sure there's a solution to this - other than time - but I just want to be reassured I'm not the only one.
DS1 is 3.9, DS2 is 8 weeks, I'm a single parent. DS1 has been very hard work since DS2 born, not surprisingly I guess. I've done absolutely everything I can to ease his path into "siblinghood" - trips out, masses of praise for good behaviour, encouragement to help with DS2 etc. I'm limited in what I can do because DS2 just will not sleep without being cuddled, so those planned play-while-the-baby-sleeps sessions aren't happening.
We have no relatives nearby. My parents visited for a few days last week, but that's not something I can rely on all the time. And they drive me mad anyway!
DS1 constantly pesters DS2, pulls his arms around, puts his face right up close, wakes him if he's sleeping etc. He also does many other naughty (and often obviously attention-seeking) things.
I'm doing my absolute best to handle this, but I find that I'm snapping at him all the time. I get to the end of the day and realise I've told him off constantly. I vow to do better the next day, but I never do.
Can anyone reassure me that I'm not the only one who does this? I don't mean to tell DS1 off all the time, but it just feels that all I ever say to him is "don't do that love, stop doing that please, no don't, leave it alone, put that back, if you do that I'll be cross" and so on.
Oh yes. But to be fair she can be arightlittlesodchallenging at times!
I wouldn't feel too guilty, so you are cross for a few weeks and then things get better, in the long run he won't remember it and hopefully things will start coming together soon. By the time DS was about three months old things got a lot better (and that's in spite of me being in and out of hospital for further surgeries! So there is hope for you yet!)