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I want my temper gone and my patience back

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FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 19-Jun-09 17:30:53

Just so tired.
Kids being very challenging.
I know I am doing it all wrong but too knackered to fed-up to work out how to change it.
Plus my memories of when I was a child don't help with trying to do this parenting thingy.

OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper Fri 19-Jun-09 17:52:41

FBG, am I right that you're dieting? I wanted to post this the other day when you listed the measly amount you'd eaten - my first thought was, there's a meltdown waiting to happen (in a caring, not judgy way, obviously.)

I didn't post then because I mainly lurk and you don't know me from Adam - me jumping in and telling you you'll be struggling soon would probably not be the right thing to do.

However, now you're asking for advice, and I can tell you what I've learned and what a lot of others know in more detail and with more qualifications than me.

You need to nourish your body with the right foods. Mood swings and depression are often caused by chemical imbalances in the brain, as a result of poor nourishment.
If you're overweight you probably think you can't possibly be under-nourished, but I'm guessing you have a taste for sweet stuff and whiite carbs.

In fact, when you eat this stuff you're self-medicati g for your depression as the sugar (and this is what all white carbs are just as much as actual sweet stuff) gives you a quick 'hit' by spiking you blood sugar levels; it feels great, until your Bs drops tenfold later, draining your energy and making you snappy and short-tempered, or depressed, and longi g for your next 'hit.' that's when people go to the biscuit tin, the wine bottle, or the chocalate to make themselves feel good again.

There is a website called www.radiantrecovery.com which gives more info, or you can buy various books on Anazon (the first one was Potatoes Not Prozac).
Basically you need to eat protein every meal, brown carbs, and as much green veg as possible. You learn to use food to stabilize your mood rather than send you up and down. And you can lose weight.

Sorry this is long and preachy - I know it works, and you could start to feel better in no time.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 19-Jun-09 17:55:58

Thank you

I always appreciate help and advice.

Something isn't right as I am getting upset over responses on 2 threads and normally I can shrug it off.

I have eaten more today and might even have a bit of choc that DH has brought home for me.

He wants me to go shopping to Bluewater now but I can't be bothered really.

OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper Fri 19-Jun-09 18:28:30

By all means have the choc, but try and look out for the way it makes you feel. If you feel fab - the best you've felt all day - you're probably addicted to sugar - and try and look out for the corresponding 'drop' in mood.

Sorry don't mean to spoil your enjoyment - but learning about all this was such a lightbulb moment for me, I really think it's worth looking in to.

You won't feel better as long as you rely on the demon sugar - and isn't the thing we most crave the thing that's most bad for us?

Fwiw, sugar sensitivity often runs in families, particularly when one or the other parent is/was alchoholic. I hope you don't mind me suggesting this, but could it be relevant to your situation?

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 19-Jun-09 18:33:51

No idea about parents.

I never seem to get the high from chocolate that people talk about tbh and sometimes I wonder why I am even eating it.

OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper Fri 19-Jun-09 20:01:48

Maybe that's not your 'thing' then - but am I right in thinking you love to bake? (Only for your DCs of course -and I bet you don't salivate at all when you're deciding what to make!)

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 19-Jun-09 20:14:03

I do love to bake and the kids have the majority of it.

For the first time in ages I have had some wine and choc and are feeling the effects..

OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper Fri 19-Jun-09 20:28:49

Good luck - but I would strongly urge you to look at the link, or search for the book on Amazon.

Food can be used as good or bad medicine and once you realize how much better you can feel you won't want to slip back in to the pit.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 19-Jun-09 20:33:54

I wasn't allowed to eat much when I was a kid.

I am happy when the fridge is full.

I love food shopping, meal planning, buying cook books, cooking.

woodstock3 Fri 19-Jun-09 21:01:10

not sure about food (she says, sitting here with coffee and blueberry muffin) but sleep is the key to keeping my temper. a few nights of going to bed at 9pm is grimly dull but i usually feel like a nicer person for it.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 19-Jun-09 21:10:53

you are right

i have put the light out about 9.20 the last 2 nights but can't always go straight to sleep but are resting so must be good

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