I've noticed recently, well I suppose more than recently but perhaps I've been ignoring it, that dd is extremely negative. For instance, if we are to go somewhere, like the zoo, she'll think of one bad thing about going. When she comes home from school she tells me all the bad things first, such as "It's not fair, the green table got 10mins of choosing time and we didn't just because the others weren't ready on time" - everything seems to centre about it not being fair on her.
Now a bit of background you should know. My family are a bunch of depressives, bar myself (at times) and my sister. If they go on holiday, they never have a good time, they always have to moan. Nothing is ever good enough and no matter what you do, they'll only ever see what you don't do. It's been like that ever since I remember and I've tried so so hard to break free from it.
This morning dd comes up to me and I ask her if she's excited about her friend coming for tea tomorrow. She nods and then says "but it's not fair because when ds went to his friends house they had a party and he got to eat party food, whereas I didn't, and now my friend's coming but ds will be here."
I must admit I lost it a bit. I've been ignoring her negativity so far, but this week is a bit of a strain, I'm on my own, and I just lost it.
Now I'm devastated. Because I lost it with her. Because I feel I've failed as a mother. Because I can see the person she'll grow up to be and I don't want her to be that person.
Please please give me some advice on how to deal with it. Please tell me that this is not the way she's going to turn out.
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I know I've over-reacted over this, but it's just not the way I want my dd to turn out
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Rhubarb · 10/06/2009 14:05
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