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What would you say to this request?

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dilemma456 Thu 04-Jun-09 11:50:40

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nancy75 Thu 04-Jun-09 11:52:56

i wouldnt feel very happy about it tbh, am also suprised that the gf would let her stay with sombody she has never met.

Rubyrubyrubyinthegame Thu 04-Jun-09 11:53:15

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callalilies Thu 04-Jun-09 11:54:34

I think it's a cheek but I also think it's wrong to get a child to stay overnight with someone they don't know - from the child's point of view.

If her dad can't have her that weekend then they need to rearrange the weekend away imo.

Tamarto Thu 04-Jun-09 11:55:51

No i wouldn't.

For many reason including the fact the asked you on an answering machine!

dilemma456 Thu 04-Jun-09 11:57:58

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hobbgoblin Thu 04-Jun-09 11:59:54

I'd do it but I'd want to do a trial run play date and a trial sleep over first before the parents disappear!

NationalFlight Thu 04-Jun-09 12:03:56

No, I would have misgivings...she is a NEW girlfriend, you say, so how do we know her daughter and his sons actually even get on? there will be some dodgy dynamics going on there at this stage - and what do they hope to achieve by lumping their kids together without them, some people are totally irresponsible.

Say no IMO.

Overmydeadbody Thu 04-Jun-09 12:10:31

I would say no, as the child wouldn't know me and I wouldn't know her.

Start as you mean to go on. If you say yes this time the requests may become regular, so they have have child-free breaks.

ginnny Thu 04-Jun-09 12:10:46

I'm shock that the girls mother is happy for her dd to stay with someone she doesn't know while she goes on a dirty weekend with her new man.
You could be anyone for all she knows!!

SoupDragon Thu 04-Jun-09 12:13:08

"You could be anyone for all she knows!" Yes, an "anyone" with whom her bf is happy to leave his children.

I would chat with the single-dad friend and voice your concerns.

cat64 Thu 04-Jun-09 12:28:22

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KingCanuteIAm Thu 04-Jun-09 12:33:26

I would, meet them first, make sure that the child seems to operate within rules that you are happy with (ie the mum is not a "let her do anything" type if you are not like that too) and make sure the child is happy with the idea. Also I would ask for the dads number as an emergency contact for the weekend incase something happens or she is upset etc. I would also make it clear this is a one off!

But then I am a hopeless romantic at heart and would do anything to see my single parent friend matched up and happy grin

dilemma456 Thu 04-Jun-09 12:40:21

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BennyAndJoon Thu 04-Jun-09 12:41:26

Does the girl know the boys already?

As others have said, I would have her over before the sleep over, and check how she gets on with you and the boys.

KingCanuteIAm Thu 04-Jun-09 12:45:26

Oh, I am sold! What a crappy back story for him! Gah - I am off before I start a rant about parents who leave their dc ! grin

dilemma456 Thu 04-Jun-09 14:10:41

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Arewenearlythereyet2009 Thu 04-Jun-09 17:49:47

It is a bit cheeky, but i'm sure you will make the right decision. Just discuss it further? x

Rubyrubyrubyinthegame Fri 05-Jun-09 10:05:56

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Rubyrubyrubyinthegame Fri 05-Jun-09 10:06:26

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simplesusan Sat 06-Jun-09 17:30:35

It sounds like your friend has spoken highly of you, can trust you with his boys etc. He has probably reassured his gf that her dd will be fine with you. As all the children know each other I think it will be fine. I would make sure you don't become their regular babysitter though!

MaggieBee Sat 06-Jun-09 17:33:26

Will they mind your children for you one weekend?? Bring it up while they're still grateful.

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