Often written on here about DS1 (10) have always found him to be difficult and rejects any help you try to give him. He lacks self confidence and self esteem and walks around with his shoulders down and head on the floor. He attends karate which we thought would be a good idea as the teachers are very hot on positive body language and using positive language around people. He says he likes karate but it is still not helping him with his negative belief about himself and those around him. He is such a good looking boy which I tell him so often but it's like his wants to self adestruct and won't allow you to try to help him. i have suggested that he try to pretend he is feeling confident around people and use the appropriate body language to show that he is not feeling intimidated (which he very easily is) but he won't take anything I suggest on board. I watch him and feel so upset knowing that if he doesn't try to help himself he is going to have a miserable time. He moans constantly if anything is remotely amiss and is the most negative person I know. It makes me feel such a failure as I set out on this journey with a promise that I would do by utmost to instill confidence in my children - but I have gone so wrong with him. His brother is the opposite and never ever gives up. Always cheerful and full of fun. I never compare the two but DS1 is concerning me. I need some suggestions of how we can turn this around please particulary if you have had these types of issues with your own child.
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Flowertop · 23/04/2009 10:56
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