In our case it's my BIL, my DH's brother.
Since DS was born two years ago BIL has shown NO interest in him.
Since he as born (he didn't even buy him a gift)he has barely TOUCHED him, never mind picked him up, put him on his knee or played with him. He never comes to see him either, not even on either of his birthdays.It goes without saying that DS doesn't have a clue who he is. There isn't ONE photo of him with DS.
The last straw was when, last week for DS's second birthday, his parents brought a present and card, allegedly from him. It was so obvious that he has netiher got the present or even written the card. So insulting.
DH is REALLY hurt by it all, particularly considering all the support he has given him over the years with his motorpsort. He has followed him round the country for years and now that's it's DH's moment he can just not be happy for him. DH told me last night it would be very hard to think of him as a brother ever again; he is just so upset, and I'm also upset and hurt for both him and our DS who is such a cherub and so loveable.
More than that, BIL hasn't once congratulated us on our new pregnancy. He just gets worse. Most people I tell about this say he's jealous (he's 38 and has a girlfriend but has never committed). My feeling is that he is jealous but also very, very, very selfish.Okay, not everybody is interested in babies and kids, but FFS, show some warmth for your brother at least.
I know I'm ranting - I have been for ages, and I now think the only way for me to stop this anger is to pretend BIL doesn't exist. Has anyone experieced similiar; if so, how did you cope wth it?
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Does anyone else have a member of the family who shows NO interest in their DC?
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Gateau · 20/04/2009 15:52
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