DS 2years3months started childcare at 6 months. He always went happily and didn't have any separation anxiety until we went to Australia for 6 weeks when he was 13 months. After that, every time I left him in childcare he got so upset - screaming, kicking, hysterically crying. I moved him to a new nursery which he loves but he still does the same. I've been on maternity leave with DD for 9 months but kept him going 2 mornings a week. We've been back in Oz for another 2 months and I started him back at nuresery again this week.
So far, I've talked to him about it (bit hard to get his input with limited vocab), we've been to the nursery every 2 days for 3 weeks, just popping in for a while to chat and play, I've left him 2 hours (and he cried for about 5 minutes - usually it's only 30 seconds to a minute) then leaving him again tomorrow for 2 hours. It doesn't actually matter how long he's there, it's the event of separating. It doesn't feel manipulative, he is just so upset about being left he totally loses it.
He's like this being left with DH also. If I just disappear he's fine - just asks where I am and gets on with it.
Any suggestions on how to help? I'm OK, I just think it's so distressing for him and I don't know how to stop it, if at all.
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2year 3 months screaming hysterically every time I leave him. Have to return to work in 2 weeks.
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Shylily · 05/03/2009 22:02
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