DD has just started really going for it on the tantrum front. We're pretty AP in our parenting style so far and it doesn't fit to just stand our ground each time whatever the problem so she learns she can't always get what she wants by screaming. But I also think creating boundaries at this time is really important to help children feel secure and that it IS important that she learns she can't always get what she wants by screaming.
I guess what I'm saying is I'm not into being a hippy who let's the kid get whatever it wants in a kind of extension of demand feeding etc that it needs as a baby, but I'm also not prepared to just say no because I say so without understanding why I'm saying so, and I"m finding it quite challenging working it all out.
So for example the other day we left the library and she was wearing a cardigan and bodywarmer. A few steps outside she spotted her other cardigan and wanted that on as well. I explained it was too cold to take everything off to put it on and she had a complete meltdown, at which point I thought - if I want my other cardigan on i can just put it on. she can't and why am i really saying no? because it's a palaver to put it on now. so i gave in. but was that because coping with her meltdown was even more difficult? Is there something in understanding no means no whether it's a well founded no or not because then your world is clear and safe? I guess it's the times i give in after protests that confuse me.
Have been a bit long and not very clear, but any words of wisdom to welcome me to the terrible twos would be welcome!
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AP types, what are your toddler tantrum policies???
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alittleteapot · 05/03/2009 16:50
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