moving to the 'big boys bed'-part 1!!

[dinkyboysmum]

well, ds1's big boys bed is arriving on wednesday. i'm trying to find a duvet for him, but am getting very confused re:togs! should i use a lighter duvet (4.5tog) and put blanket on top? is it not advised to use heavier duvet (10.5tog)? keep reading different things...
should i give him a pillow? again, is a lighter one better (less chance of suffocating)
also any advice on how to manage the big move would be great, am all worked up about it!? was planning on putting him in 'the bed' at 7pm, as he settles v.quickly, but then move him into cot whn i go to bed at 10pm-ish.
ds is 18months old...going into a bed so that ds2 can have his cot (you might call it 'eviction'!)

[choufleur]

why are you planning on moving him when you go to bed? surely you want him to stay in his bed

does he have a sleeping bag in his cot? if he does i'd leave him in that so that it is familiar and then move to a duvet once he is used to it.

DS has a 4.5 tog duvet with the blanket and a bedspread if it is cold. i figured if he loses one thing then at least he'll still have a blanket or duvet on him. if a 10 tog duvet comes off he will be cold.

DS just has a regular pillowm albeit a fairly flat one. He's nearly 3 now but we moved him to his bed around 20 months.

We put the bed up in DS's room and let him get used to it for a few days and then just took the cot away so that he had to sleep in his bed. he was so excited that he slept it in the first night he was in his room.

[Seona1973]

it depends on the size of the bed as to the tog you should use i.e. if it is cot bed sized then a 4.5 tog would be sufficient. If it is a single bed then you could use a maximum 10.5tog. The bump to 3 website gives an explanation as to why:

Why is the tog rating of the cot bed size duvet different to the tog rating of the single bed size duvet?

Because the size of the cot bed is smaller it automatically retains more heat when the child is sleeping, however, the larger surface area in a single bed means the child only heats the area he/she is sleeping in, therefore, a higher tog rating is required on the single bed size. The single bed size comprises of 2 x 4 tog duvets that popper together giving flexibility to reduce the tog to 4 togs when the nighttime temperatures increase.

Do not exceed the maximum recommended tog duvet, which is 4 tog for children in cots or cot beds and 10 tog for children in single beds

[bodiddly]

I didn't know which tog to get for ds so I bought a fairly cheap duvet and pillow set designed for kids. I figured that way someone else had worked it out for me! We started ds off in his bed at nap time for a few days then at night time ... it enabled him to get used to it gradually.

[Joe1977]

We changed from a sleeping sack to a duvet before moving DS1 from his cot, figured that it was better to get him used to a duvet in a cot where it couldn't drop off the side, the bedding was then familiar when he went into a bed.
We added a pillow (Mothercare do small kiddies ones) when he went into a big bed, but that wasn't until he was 26 months old. Unless you think that he will benefit from a pillow he probably doesn't need one until he is a bit bigger, even if he is in a big bed.
The duvet we have got at the moment is filled with lambswool, which (according to the info on the side of the box), keeps your little person warm when it's cold and cool when it's warm, so hasn't got a tog rating. It's a fogarty branded one, but I managed to get it in TKMax for halfprice