I am off out to tesco and recently it has become a nightmare.
My ds1 (6yr), ds2 (2 1/2yrs) are monsters and I usually end up in tears at the checkout. seriously. It's so bad the cashiers know me and will actually open up a till for me as they now how upset I am.
As soon as we enter Tesco they run off, from there I become extremely stressed. The toys are all near the front so there is no way I can avoid the cause of my stress. They will both scream if I won't buy anything for them from the toy section.
Then what's worse is my ds2 has now taken to hiding from me whilst I hunt for him. He hides on shelfs behind stuff so I have no idea where he is and walk up and down the aisles calling for him, getting worried. What can I do to end this nightmare, the only times It's ok is when I use a trolley as I can trap ds2 in that aswell but I don't drive and I push dd1 in her pram down to the store so I have to make do with a basket.
What do you do to ensure shopping is relaxed (apart from not take your kids)?
And what should I do about ds2 hiding from me all the time?
I always say that if ds is good in the supermarket (I define good as not running off or breaking anything) I will buy him a magazine that he can choose. If he is naughty I take away one train at a time until he looses the whole train set for a week. It does work but I have to keep reminding him of the rules and stick fast.
Or shop online - it is only £5 and you can use the discount codes posted here to make up for that. Many children find that supermarkets are just too stimulating and they can't behave even if they really want to when they are so excited.
I don't have a debit card to pay for things online otherwise I would happily give up the stress of shopping. Have tried baskets for distraction for ds1 but to be honest he just does what he wants anyway. It is ds2, I was thinking about buying a small basket for him and letting him do some shopping but where can I get one that is light enough for him to carry?
I have appointmant at bank today to get a debit card so hopefully I can Tesco.com stuff all I like afterwards.
get a piece of paper and draw some of the items you need to buy on it,,give them a pencil/crayon and then get them to mark the items off as you get them ,,might work for a little while any way ,,good luck
in the meantime, sit him in the seat, when you go into the shop head straight for the packets of raisins, crisps etc and let him eat them around the shop then give the checkout assistant the empty packet to ring up
put ds2 in trolley seat, buy wrist strap for ds1 - to be used if he cant behave!! can you get them a little treat for being good in the shop? we often pick up a magazine and the kids carry it round with them, if they are naughty it has to be put back. the fact that they have it in their hands is a great reminder for them to be good. if they are hungry i get a baguette and let them eat bits off it as we go round - the checkout staff seem perfectly used to scanning empty packets so i dont think i am the only one who does this! i have to say i understand why kids are naughty in shops - if i could avoid going i would too! good luck!!
sorry sahara, but the only cure is online shopping.
ive been doing it for four years now, since just before ds2 was born. same age gap as you. i now have three kids, and go into a supermarket about twice a year now. texco will deliver it on tuesday or wednesday for four pounds. surely your sanity is worth more than 3.99?
No credit Card unfortunately.
Thanks for your advice. I guess I sort of knew already that it is distration that works, or doing it online. Just needed to hear it said.
Ds1 is out of school waiting to find out where will be named on his statement.
So it's atruly difficult time to be trying to have a peaceful shopping experience.