I'm a regular mumsnetter but posting anonymously because of the stigma and sensitivity of this problem.
I'm afraid that this is going to be a long post.
It started last Friday. DD (2.9) started to complain that there was a spider in her car seat and was wriggling uncomfortably. Conversation went a bit like this:
Me: are you itchy and uncomfortable?
DD: Yes
Me: Where?
DD: On my bottom
Me: bottom or twinkle? [twinkle is her name for vagina]
DD: twinkle
DD: It's sore, I scratched it
Me: You scratched it? Has anyone else touched it?
(Yes I know leading question, I don't know what made me ask it really)
DD: Yes grandpa
Me: Grandpa, are you sure?
DD: Yes.
Me: Where did this happen?
DD: In the garden
Me: What did you say?
DD: I said ouch
I then decided to test dd. Basically I asked her if anyone else had touched her i.e. grandma, daddy, the ladies at nursery. To which she replied 'no'. I would have been happier if she had replied 'yes' to the others as that would have made the whole grandpa thing a bit less likely iyswim
Dd does occasionally come up with embellishments or little fibs. For instance, she will say that the staff at Day Nursery smack her, and once she told my friend that the graze on her knee was because daddy pushed her, when in fact daddy had tried to catch her when she fell from a climbing frame (and thus grazed her knee).
I don't want to dismiss this is a fib though just in case it is the truth.
I did take her to the doctors on Friday to discuss this. The Dr examined her and she has a bit of thrush but not physical injury or anything down there. The Dr said she will discuss this with an expert colleague in child protection for advice, and has arranged to see me again in a week to discuss further.
Just don't know what to think. What would you think in the circumstances?
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Accusation about grandpa
Idratherbeincognito · 11/04/2005 09:35
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