DS is 4 and a bit.
He is a lot of a whinger and TBH can be very wearing. He not always as bad when it is just the two of us.
It's a different story when DH is around. When DS is behaving DH is happy and enjoys him but as soon as he starts moaning or has a tantrum over something, DH doesn't seem to be able to cope.
He smacks him sometimes (which he knows I don't agree with and threatens him with ridicolous things such as taking away his toys if he won't eat his breakfast. He has grabbed him by the arm (not usually hard) and spoken to him through gritted teeth.
He sometimes picks up things and and holds them behind him as if he is going to swat him (which he would never do either).
He also says things like "you are a pain" and "you and me are going to fall out" or "I will hit you in a minute".
We often end up arguing in front of DS as I don't like how DH is with him. It's damaging for DS as well as our relationship as we end up feeling resentful towards each other.
I am at my wits end with all of it. I often feel as if I have two children instead of one. I have to referee sometimes and now DS is starting to play us off against one another.
DH loves DS to bits but I feel that their relationship is going to be damaged by the way DH parents him. I have spoken to him so many times about it and tried to explain about three strikes and naughty step etc. but he never seems to follow it through and ends up shouting.
DS knows that there is no set pattern to DH's disciplining and uses this to his advantage by messing about at bedtime/teatime/getting dressed etc. A lot of the time it ends in shouting which I have to go and sort out.
I am feeling so tense already and frustrated and angry at DH (which does not make for a happy and joyous Christmas!) and DH is at home for two weeks over Christmas!
I am seriously considering looking at some parenting courses. Does anyone know of any or have any tips/solutions/been through this
BTW, I am not perfect myself(!) but never use threats of physical violence or talk through gritted teeth etc.
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verrilyonhigh · 21/12/2008 11:56
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