This is ds, he is 5.
He seems to think he should be briliant at stuff right from the start.
So he wants to read. But perfectly, or at least like us. He wants to play the violin. But really really well. There is clearly a big gap between what he imagines himself doing and what he is actually capable of.
I don't think it is that he objects to the hard graft as such. He will do that, for example he has worked hard to, say, learn to knit or learn to write (oddly he doesn't mind not being able to write perfectly), or ride a bike or whatever.
I think the problem is when he sets himself a goal, he really struggles with how far short he is falling from that goal.
I don't know how to help him at all really. He gets so UPSET.
He is home educated so no input from school. However, he does several classes, and there are no problems with them. It is really self-imposed goals that he is struggling with, he is fine at following instructions, being taught, etc (and the specific problem of the violin might resolve itself when he starts lessons).
Thoughts please?
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What do you do when children seem so afraid of failing that won't try?
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Fillyjonk · 18/11/2008 08:06
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