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having a really crappy day - sorry, long moan(6 Posts)
I was in a similar situation as you with my two. Tbh looking back I would do as little as possible and encourage your dd to play but without your constant interaction. My ds does not remember a time before his brother came along so for the sake of 8 weeks I am sure she can cope. Also once the new baby is with you she will have to get used to spending some of her day without your total attention as you will have a new baby to deal with.
Ah, I really sympathise with you@kazbeth
I have SPD, too (am 36 weeks pregnant with my 2nd; I have a 3 yr old son). I'm lucky in that I have a lot of help from my mum, who lives locally, and my SPD hasn't been as bad with this pregnancy as it was last time (touch wood!) - so not quite as difficult for me as for you - but - I do relate with you, especially with feeling like a crappy mum when you can't go very far and can't get down and play with your child
I think you have to be realistic about what you physically can and can't do, and then make a massive effort NOT to beat yourself about it. My son is watching a lot more CBeebies than he normally would. I also put kid's story CDs / music on a lot for him, and have got my DH to bring down lots more of DS's toys to the livjng room so he can run riot (the house is a tip at the moment, but hey ho...). I also think up things I can do with my son sitting down (making fairy cakes from a packet mix / going on to the CBeebies website on my laptop /jigsaws / colouring in / finger puppets etc).
It is really hard, and I also worry about how I will cope once the baby is here, as just being pregnant with a toddler is such hard work (!)...but I think this is perfectly normal. Please don't be too hard on yourself. xxx
Have you go anyone at all you can invite round for the odd afternoon to break up the day a bit?
Didn't have spd, but did have a high risk last trimester (and back problems) with 16m DD in tow. It was hard for both of us at the time, but much much easier once the baby arrived. (I know not everyone agrees, but I think it's easier to have a baby than be pregnant and look after a toddler.) CBeebies is a bit of a life-saver though. As are activities like drawing and reading which you can do sitting down.
Good luck - I'm sure your dd won't remember the next 8 weeks.
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