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A warning . If your child has ever had a head injury . . .

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NKffffffffbd5c103cX11d23fe3986 · 25/10/2008 14:15

even if it was years ago, there's a risk that his/her pituitary gland may have been damaged, and a possible effect of that is that a girl may not start her periods, and a boy may grow up to have erectile dysfunction. Our son fell from a tree when he was seven and fractured his skull like in many places. He made a fantastic recovery, and nobody ever warned us there might be difficulties in adulthood.

But this August, at the age of 31, he committed suicide. We discovered afterwards from his ex-girlfriend that he was impotent throughout the 4 years they were together. This explains so many things to us now - why he was so terribly upset when she left him (she'd accepted him as he was, but who else would?) and why, when he heard his best friend's wife was pregnant, he drove 200 miles that evening to congratulate him, and then the 200 miles back, through the night, and went to work as usual the next day. We thought he was crazy, but now we can see how deeply he must have felt. And we understand how it must have been for him this year, when his younger sister and cousin were both getting married, and his best friend's second baby had been born, how he must have felt everybody was moving on except him, and he had no hope.

We feel so terribly sad that we didn't know what his problem was, or that head injury could cause it.

The irony is that it could have been successfully treated with testosterone.

So please, if you have a depressed male friend or relative who has ever had a head injury, make sure you tell them. (I'm saying 'male' because I don't think girls would hide a menstruation problem in the same way, but I may be wrong.)

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Aitch · 25/10/2008 14:18

thank you for the warning, i'm so sorry that your son isn't with you any more.

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scaryfucker · 25/10/2008 14:24

I'm so sorry.

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BitOfFun · 25/10/2008 14:53

I am so sorry for your loss - and you are so right to alert parents to this as well, it is very brave of you.

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RaggedRobin · 25/10/2008 21:54

so terribly sad.
thank you for this information.

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MaDAMNEDAnt · 25/10/2008 21:58

How dreadfully sad. I am so sorry for your loss.

I had no idea there was a link between head injuries and damage to the pituitary gland. Thank you for letting us know.

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beeny · 25/10/2008 21:59

Im very sorry,and thanks for sharing this information.

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ShinyPinkPumpkin · 25/10/2008 22:01

Thank you for sharing this with us all.

How are you coping?
I should imagine you miss him dreadfully

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lauraloola · 25/10/2008 22:05

Im sorry for your son x I have never heard of that and will remember it always now, thank you x

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pushchair · 25/10/2008 22:12

Thank you for passing on that information and for your strength in coming on to do so.

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mamalovesmojitos · 25/10/2008 22:25

how tragic for you, i am so sorry. you must miss him every day.

thank you for passing on the information, i too will always remember it.

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munchkinmum · 25/10/2008 23:00

This is so tragic - something I had never heard of.

Thankyou for sharing this with us. x

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mummypig · 25/10/2008 23:19

Feeling very sad for you. Thanks for passing on the information.

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MrsWeasleyIsTheCrazyHatLady · 25/10/2008 23:21

Thank you for being so brave as to share that with us.

So sorry for your loss.

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liahGeneMutatedMonster · 25/10/2008 23:22

so sorry you have gone through this. My son had a couple of nasty head injurys when he was a toddler. I will now be aware as he gets older.

Thank you for alerting to this. You are very brave.

wishing you strength. x

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thesockmonsterofdoom · 26/10/2008 09:48

I am so sorry for your deep tragedy, thank you so much for helping others by sharing this.

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QuintessentialShadows · 26/10/2008 10:54

I am so sorry for your loss.

I will take your advice to heart as my ds2 (now 3 and a half) had a terrible fall on a ceramic tiled floor last year, and drifted in and out of conscience in the ambulance, his heart stopped twice.
Thank you for your information.

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ilovemyghds · 26/10/2008 11:02

So sorry . He sounds like he was a lovely caring man.

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MyPumpkinDsHappyHalloweenBday · 26/10/2008 11:05

so sorry for your loss. hug to you

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BBBeeast · 26/10/2008 11:08

thank you and sorry to hear about your loss

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Lomond · 26/10/2008 11:08

I am so sorry for your loss

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edam · 26/10/2008 11:10

Oh, that's a tragic story, NKf. I'm so sorry.

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ilovemydog · 26/10/2008 11:19

Thank you... I would have never made the connection... My godfather had a very unusual form of cancer on the pituitary and his personality changed drastically towards the end. he was almost feminine in manner, body and appearance.

Sorry about your son

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exasperatedmummy · 26/10/2008 12:12

Oh, what a sad story, thankyou for sharing this with us. So very sorry for your loss, but you must know that this would be quite rare and you must never ever blame yourself for this which is what i am picking up from your post.

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MuAHAHAHAHAHmi · 26/10/2008 13:49

Thank you so much for sharing this. So sorry for your loss

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