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Leaving my 3 months baby for a week to my parents? is it realistic ?

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MamanFlo Tue 08-Mar-05 15:26:03

Hello mums !

I might have to leave my 3 months old baby for a week to my parents (I trust them 200%).
What my baby will feel ? Is this that bad ?
How would you cope as a mum ?

thanks for your opinion....


amynnixmum Tue 08-Mar-05 15:27:43

It isn't bad but are you really ready to do this?
At 3 months your baby should be fine but I think you may find it difficult.

piffle Tue 08-Mar-05 15:28:50

I couldn't but then 2 yrs on I wish I had!!!
If you feel you can cope then go

pipsy1 Tue 08-Mar-05 15:30:12

AT that age I found it hard to go to the hairdressers without her!
I'm sure baby will be fine, not at the clingy stage then, but good idea to leave some things with your smell on them (eg clothes) so she still has the comfort of her mummy

RudyDudy Tue 08-Mar-05 15:31:06

I think you're baby will probably cope a lot better than you will! So if you feel comfortable with it then I wouldn't worry. Also, if it's going to be a regular thing if you start young your baby will be used to staying with them. Do you want to go away or do you have to? I think that might affect how you feel...

MamanFlo Tue 08-Mar-05 15:40:24

It is a unique opportunity to go to India for a week and as DH and I haven't had a honeymoon, and never actually travelled together, we feel it would be the perfect way to get some rest and relax. It will happen sooner or later anyway... the question of my baby needing us more or less is key...I am not sure of the impact on her, but at the same time I am sure other women are actually leaving their little ones for work reasons more than often...

I don't want to look selfish, I am trying to find some kind of balance...

amynnixmum Tue 08-Mar-05 15:44:36

Its not selfish mamanflo. Your baby will be fine. Sounds like a fantastic opportunity so if you feel that you can cope personally with leaving your baby you should go for it

MamanFlo Tue 08-Mar-05 15:47:55

funny...the french mums on another forum are much more clingy ! there is a raging debate happening at the moment on my question !!!

bamboo Tue 08-Mar-05 15:48:34

I admire you considering travelling to India three months after giving birth - I was absolutely shattered for ...errr.. the first 2 years! It sounds like baby will be in good hands , it just depends if you can cope.

Prufrock Tue 08-Mar-05 15:54:40

Your baby won't even know. Up until 6 monthish, they have no concept of object permanance. Once you hide something they can't remember that it exists. That applies to mothers as well as teddies.
That's not to say she doesn't know you - as soon as you, or your dh, or a favourite toy, reappears she recognises it as something nice and familiar, but whilst you are not there you eally aren't there.

It might be more difficult for you to deal with emotionally though - you don't know before you have your baby whether you are going to be a clingy mum or not - I know with dd I could easily have left her for a week at 3 months, with ds, I have trouble leaving him for a night, and he's 10 months now. And I love them both hugely - I just feel quite differently protective of them.

Sponge Tue 08-Mar-05 16:02:03

I've just left ds, 6 months, with my mum for a week. He was absolutely fine and loves me as much as ever. I missed him like mad but also appreciated the time with dd and dh and some sleep.
If you think you'll be OK with it then go. Your baby will be fine, won't remember and will have a chance to bond well with your parents.

magnolia1 Tue 08-Mar-05 18:13:43

I left 3 of my girls at home with daddy last year while I took the eldest on Holiday. Katie was exactly 12 months and I gave up breasfeeding 1 week before I left!! It was hard leaving her but it was a great time for me and Jade and This year I am doing it again and taking one of the 5 year old Twins

Mechelle x

hercules Tue 08-Mar-05 18:15:31

I wouldnt because it would tear me apart but your baby would be fine.

ETsmum Tue 08-Mar-05 21:02:44

We left ds at about 4m to have a weekend break. He was with grandparents and was fine and we felt better after it too. Go for it!

vict17 Tue 08-Mar-05 21:06:40

I couldn't have done this but wish I had iyswim. One question though - how old is you r baby now? Do you breast feed? If so have you expressed before as I really never got the hang of that and I was wondering if it would be very painful too not to feed for a week. (sorry feel a bit silly thinking boring practical thoughts when no one else has mentioned it!!)

Cod Tue 08-Mar-05 21:07:13

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lockets Tue 08-Mar-05 21:08:03

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Gobbledigook Tue 08-Mar-05 21:13:18

I'm with Cod I'm afraid - no way would I leave my baby for a week

mmmmchocolate Tue 08-Mar-05 21:16:15

I am sure baby would be fine but i am also with cod i couldn't do it, i still have trouble leaving my 6month old to have an evening out.

lockets Tue 08-Mar-05 21:16:26

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Cod Tue 08-Mar-05 21:16:34

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milge Tue 08-Mar-05 21:17:10

Not sure i could do it. i'd spend the week thinking of the little mite at home, and would be miserable and desperate to be with him/her. They are very portable at 3m - take lo with you. it gets much harder to travel with them as they get older.

vict17 Tue 08-Mar-05 21:17:26

India (says further down )

Cod Tue 08-Mar-05 21:19:38

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