I know that having an older sibling can help a younger child 'grow up' but in our case I think it's actually having the reverse effect.
Ds2 is 9 and is very strong/ dominant/ bossy even when he thinks he's being 'helpful'...
Ds2 is 6, and is quieter, not so confident, and struggles a bit more academically so e.g. takes a bit longer to grasp/ understand things.
I'm worried that DS2 just lets his big brother do everything for him. He doesn't bother to read things for himself - asks DS1; doesn't know how to work the TV/DVD/computer 'cos DS1 is always around to do it etc.
I think it also affects his personal self-esteem, as he compares himself to his brother, and gives up when he can't compete .
Meanwhile, DS1 can be mean, and often jumps in with answers to things we ask DS2, or 'speaks for' DS2 (who tends to get flustered, and stuck etc).
Just wondering what to do/ how to handle, as I really think DS2 needs to become more independent of his brother?
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Does your older child dominate, and inhibit younger sibling's development?
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cornflakemum · 17/10/2008 13:49
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