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What do you do if you didn't buy a big enough present??

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Thankyouandgoodnight · 13/10/2008 20:41

I was torn between wanting to get something nice for my friend's DD for her 2nd birthday and also not wanting to set a precedence plus we are having to tighten our purse strings significantly. The gift was bought when her DD wasn't going to have a party, so I was just going to pop it through the letterbox on the day and not make a big thing about it. My friend then decided a week or so before the big day that she would have a tiny party and my DD plus one other was invited. I didnt' think any more about it and off we trotted. DD had a fabulous time but our pressie was noticeably small . Should I just leave it?

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TheArmadillo · 13/10/2008 20:43

leave it.

You brought her a nice present, size/cost doesn't matter. And anyone who is a true friend will know that.

Doubt your friend is obsessing over it.

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LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil · 13/10/2008 20:43

Just leave it - it's the thought that counts, and if she's a good friend she won't even think about whether it was a big present or not.

you could always buy her something a bit more special for Christmas.

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LittleMyDancingWithTheDevil · 13/10/2008 20:45

Armadillo I promise I'm not stalking you!

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onepieceoflollipop · 13/10/2008 20:46

Leave it, although I do understand I think. I bought my friend's ds a bath toy (£5) and her other (closer) friend who visited at the same time brought several presents (£30+)

At the time I felt slightly awkward but that was purely my own feelings, my friend thanked me very graciously and genuinely for the present.

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sunnytimer · 13/10/2008 20:49

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coochybottom · 13/10/2008 21:14

Defo thought that counts!

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Thankyouandgoodnight · 14/10/2008 10:18

Thank you everyone for your reassuring replies - it's just very cringey isn't it?? Oh the minefield.....! My friend of course doesn't know any of the background as to how the gift came to be and I really don't want to explain it, so I will just leave it and hope that all is well. The trouble is that she's a good friend but she was going to have a joint party for her DD with all her NCT crowd (and not us) and I think she felt awkward about that so I didn't want to exacerbate that when the original choice was made.