thinking more of the early years really. often hear people say they treat all their dc's equally , were all raised the same way etc so was thinking about my own two and so far they have had quite different early years. My dd (born 2003):- long difficult birth (VB) did not bond till she was 3 months breastfed for 2 months I was v anxious new mum, and did not enjoy motherhood she was colicky/ cried a lot, (so did I) back at work 3 days a week when dd 6months childminder 3 days a week did controlled crying with her (unsuccesfully which I regret) pureed her food did lots of M&T groups/ music classes
my ds (born 2007):- easy peasy lovely birth (VB) bonded straight away formula fed from birth (as I was v. ill last time and was worried it would hapen again) went back to work when he was 10 months - 4 days a week nursery 2 days a week loved loved loved his newborn days/ first year co-sleep BLW (most meals) no M&T groups and no baby classes
as you can see, quite different starts.. I was obviously older and wiser the second time and they both benefit from me being a much better mother now but I wonder what affect if any these things will have had on my dc's personalities (in particular my dd).
have others raised theirs the same or differently?