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What am I going to do about my 5yo tea leaf ?

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sameagain Wed 24-Sep-08 09:23:39

Every day he comes home from school with something in his pocket. Usually it's something small/valueless from the craft table like a piece of ribbon or a button, occasionally it will be a broken toy car or similar (found in the playground) a couple of times it has been a piece of lego and yesterday it was a very flashy toy mobile phone - he got in to trouble first because I thought he had my phone from my bag!

I made him take it back today and the teacher made a fuss about thank you for being so honest hmm and returning it, but we have no idea who it belongs to. What can I do to put a stop to this? What would you do?

throckenholt Wed 24-Sep-08 09:40:32

hmm - my 5 year olds do it too. Maybe we need to ask the teachers to have a general talk about things that aren't yours - and what to do if you find them.

VinegarTits Wed 24-Sep-08 09:43:36

Sow his pockets up

Whoopee Wed 24-Sep-08 09:56:43

I was about the same age - maybe a year older - when I stole a clip-on bear from a shop. They were a bit of a fad back then. The shop had a massive tank of them at £1 each and I couldn't have one. I already had one, but I wanted another to keep it company.

I looked at the massive tank of all these hundreds of clip-on bears, knew that really, no one would miss one, that it wouldn't put the shop out of business etc, saw that no one was watching, and pocketed one.

Later my mother realised I had two bears, not one, and gave me this long spiel about how "sad" the people in the shop would be when they realised one of their bears was missing.. I remember sitting there and losing respect for her by the second.
The shop weren't going to notice they were a bear down and if they ever did, they were grown adults, they weren't going to sit there going ^boo hoo hoo^ over a 2" toy bear. Come on. I knew she was talking nonsense, I knew she was trying to get a message across to me, and I couldn't believe she was doing it in such a stupid way.

What would have been more effective? Straightforward facts. And I mean facts, not threats. If you steal things, no one will trust you. You won't be invited to people's houses. No one will let you wander into a room on your own, there'll always be someone watching you.

Yes, there are things you want. It's normal to see things you can't have and wish you could have them. There's nothing wrong with that and everyone understands that. But it's not okay just to take. It's okay to borrow, it's okay to take something home if you've asked to borrow it. But if everyone stole all the time as they pleased, we'd never be able to find anything.

I don't know. I'm not an expert. I'm just saying what would have worked better for me than my mother pulling theatrical sad faces and talking rubbish.

I wonder about the teacher making a big fuss about the return. I wonder if it might encourage him to do it again. Maybe she could make a bigger fuss if he *asks first* to take something home and then brings it back, just to show that that behaviour's preferable.

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