I'm meant to be leaving the children today from 4 to 8, I've promised a friend I'd go to her exhibition. ds1 (17) reckons he can mind them (if I pay him) dd (5) ds2 (3) ds3 (1 1/2)what do you think? Am I mad? It's causing me to have an anxiety attack. He's minded them all for one hour a few times while I popped to shop/chippy. What will happen if they all poo and need cleaned and all start crying at the same time as often happens....oh dear....fret, fret, fret....
I think it's fine if ds1 is happy to do it(I have a 17 year-old). What's happening about dinner? I wouldn't recommend cooking with all the other distraction that will inevitably be going on. And is he expected to get them to bed?
They'll probably have a fine time but will be swinging off the light fittings when you get home
Sounds fine to me - as SMBK says, leave something ready made for their tea, and ask him to get them into pajamas and maybe the little one into bed, but leave the others for you to put to be when you come in.
Sounds fine to me-I thought from OP they were going to be younger. I wouldn't think it a good idea, but your DS1 is old enough to be married and have his own child! I am sure he can cope for 4 hours. I used to babysit other people's children at that age and stay overnight if they were having a late night.
Go, they will be fine, when dss was 17 he regularly used to look after dd who was 2 at the time with no trouble at all. And he is an eedgit at the best of times, I know minding one is not as difficult as minding three but he will be fine, it will be good for him and he will appreciate you more when he realises what a chore it is to look after small children. go.
Yes, make it clear that it is paid work and that his chances of sloping off to play on the computer are zero [voice of bitter experience emoticon]. My older DCs have minded the younger ones a lot, but it did take a few disasters where they seemed to think the little ones were actually self-sufficient before all went well - I did the stern "this is a business arrangement not a normal evening at home" talk.
Just think-if it is successful you can do it again! I always left my eldest DS looking after the younger ones (8 and 10 yrs younger). They got on fine. You need to tell them that their brother is in charge.
He is definately an eejit and he will be wanting to play computer games while minding them, so I will have to give him some speeches and good idea to make clear to the little ones that he is in charge.
No chance of him doing any dishes or anything. He is good with them though. I feel a bit less anxious now, thanks everyone.
They will love it if he plays computer games with them! Here's an idea... get him to set up a 'cinema'. They can choose a dvd, put chairs in rows, close the curtains so it's all dark. He can show them to their seats with a torch and 'sell' them popcorn!
Well my friend found someone else to go the the opening [sad and also relieved emoticon] So I can relax in my pit of children but I vow to leave them soon armed with good ideas and encouragement from this thread
oh you silly thing!! You would have really enjoyed an evening in adult company - without the children - even if you spent most of it checking up on your ds. He would have enjoyed the responsibility and the payment even more . He's a great guy for offering / agreeing.
i definately am silly and I do long for some adult time away. that was a mad time though and they are all under the weather and were all whinging and getting on. Plus I'm still breast feeding. So I shall bide my time!