i can get in moods with best of them but my dh seems so angry alot of the time.if ,for example,ds1 is being a pain,dh explods.shouting,really angry etc.like i said i too can shout,im not perfect.but he seems to go too far.
it does me.its like another child,so instead of just sorting out whatever is wrong with ds(or any of them,not just picking on ds but was yesterday made me think of it),but telling dh to calm down,then calming ds.
If your DH's communication style towards the children is really bad (it sounds as if it might be from the small amount of information you give), you might think of steering him towards some therapy/a communications workshop?
How do his parents talk to him, and to one another, and to your children?
My cousins dh used to be the same with their older ds when he was younger. Now they are 4 and 6 and he is much better. My cousin has encouraged him to take older ds to football at the weekends and it has done them the world of good to get out and enjoy something together.
This is very interesting to me. My DH can be the same too. I think it seemed to stem from losing his Mum to a brain tumour 4 years ago. His family are not the type to show their feelings and I think he was unknowingly taking his grief out on the children. Things came to a head when I pointed this out to him during a heated moment. I was also worried as one of our sons was also becoming very angry but has now improved too. Until this point he wouldnt even mention his Mum never mind her death. I can shout too but usually when I am at my wits end. His anger often seemed inappropriate. I also told him he should go to the GP for help. Dont know if he did but has been better recently. Do you think this could be the case with your DH?
ernest im not sure my dh will talk to anyone,and im sure will end in arguement.but i am going to try recording him,thatll robably be 'wrong' but might make him think.hes off to france for week soon so i might recod it before he goes and stick it in his bag.