Hi Just wondering about his as I am quite shy and don,t talk that much to parents at the school gates. However my ds loves having his school friends back after school and I don,t mind doing this at all, however I always feel a little awkward asking parents about it that I don,t talk to that much and worry that it looks odd to them. I don,t like being shy and really hate it but do you think its okay anyway to ask their children on playdates.
Absolutely fine to invite them, you don't need to know their parents particularly well to invite the children. From now on, it's much more about who your children want to play with, and they'll make their own choices. You can always make a comment about how well your child seems to get on with theirs.
If it really bothers you having to speak to unknown parents how about your ds giving a written invte t ohis friend? Kids love getting letters! also I often find this sort of thing easier over the telephone - does your school organise class contact lists - I find mine invaluable.
Please don't worry. Whats the worst that can happen. They say no ? Don't show any interest ? SOMEONE will say yes. Either to drop off their child and get a break from them Or to come round, with their child, for a cup of tea themselves. Both sound good to me
Madness, that is one of the peculiarities of life, isn't it. You have a good friend/ sil with children the same age. So children are forced to play together. But do they actually really like eachother ? Then ds/dd makes a frined. Loves them. The parent is either snooty/ not enough time/ not friendly and your child wants to play with their child all the time, but it just doesn't 'happen'.
But how many people actually do it, go up to complete strangers (or good as) and ask them if their child can come play?
I only ask because I have done it a lot -- the inviting, I mean. And it has NEVER happened to me -- my DC never asked except as a reciprocal for a playdate we already hosted (and actually, most of them haven't been reciprocated).
I know I smell, but the DC don't, you'd think they'd get asked, and anyway you don't know I smell until after you get close and are already talking... Plus, we mostly get YESes in reply to invites, so I mustn't smell too bad...
Seriously, it's dead annoying. I never know if everyone is shy or cliquey or (some cases) working too many hours.