Honestly, if he was a bf & not their dad I'd have booted him years ago.
In some ways he's great.
BUT
-He'll wind them up & not know when to stop.
-He swears around them, so now I have 3 foul mouthed little horrors who eff and blind constantly (inc telling grandad to fuck off!)
-If one of them is crying he'll mimick them, take the piss, call them a baby
-they get frustrated & hysterically angry with them, shout at him to shut up, or hit him, so he punishes them
-He can't say 'turn off the tv' or 'put down your book' - it's turn off that stupid programme' and 'put down your stupid book', everything feels like a put down
- he's rough with them, well 2 out of 4,
9 out of 10 argument are about me picking him up on how he treats the kids. Depending on mood he'll either
-have a go at me & tell me I'm no great mother (true I suppose)
-acknowledge he's out of order, then do it again anyway the next time
- acknowledge he's out of order and try harder for a limited amount of time then at some point start again anyway.
I'm really sick of the shouting, swearing & tears.
So apart from getting divorced, which wouldn't nec. fix it as he'll always be their dad anyway, wtf am I supposed ro do? It's depressing. And the piss taking I'm sure must really damage their self esteem. ANd now they just swaer and shout at each other & me all the time!