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Rude neighbour or am I over-reacting?

(41 Posts)
eagame Thu 04-Sep-08 21:49:48

I had a knock at the door earlier. A woman was stood there and when I answered she said:

"Hi, I live just across the street. Could you please tell your kids to stop kicking the ball in my garden? I mean, once or twice I can understand might be an accident but its every 5 minutes with them and I have more things to do than prat about going backwards and fowards in the back garden to get their ball and apart from that, I can be doing without them knocking on the door every 5 minutes. Even when I ignore them they carry on knocking until it gets answered. Anyway, just thought I'd let you know"


I'm a bit angry at her attitude, its not as if they're kicking it at their windows or being cheeky etc. Or am I over-reacting?

SlartyBartFast Thu 04-Sep-08 21:51:11

not sure, could they do it someone else?

islandofsodor Thu 04-Sep-08 21:51:46

Totally reasonable. If balles get accidentally kicked into my garden I retrieve it once, maybe a second time if I am feeling nice or they are very apologetic, after that, sorry.

She sounds like she was being very nice about it, some people might have blown their stack and being disturbed so much.

Moomin Thu 04-Sep-08 21:53:17

You are overreacting imo

weebleswobble Thu 04-Sep-08 21:54:44

TBH I'd feel much like she does if it happened all the time. I don't think anyone wants to be stopping whatever they're doing to get up and answer the door umpteen times a day. Sorry but I think she has a point.

MarmadukeScarlet Thu 04-Sep-08 21:55:27

Yep, if they'd done it more than a few times it would still be in my garden.

SlartyBartFast Thu 04-Sep-08 21:56:17

sheis having to answer the door to them? now that is annoying for her

squeaver Thu 04-Sep-08 21:56:44

Yes you are over-reacting.

Chaotica Thu 04-Sep-08 21:58:30

You're overreacting imo. I used to live next to a couple of unofficial football pitches and, although I was happy to have folk playing football there, and happy to get the ball a couple of times, it got really annoying to be disturbed all day (no matter how polite the disturbance).

If your kids have to play there, maybe you could arrange with her that they go and get their balls back once a day, or that she leaves them somewhere they can get them (when she has time).

louii Thu 04-Sep-08 22:01:42

Thought she was rather polite actually.

LittleBella Thu 04-Sep-08 22:01:43

I think with neighbours you just have to have an arrangement which is that when they go out to do their gardening, they chuck balls bac.

If they only do their gardening once a month, so be it.

Once to go and ask for it, once a month, is fine. Any more and unless you know the neighbour very well and it is positively welcomed, is a no-no imo.

Milliways Thu 04-Sep-08 22:03:21

When I was a kid, we played on "The Green" and the guy in the house next to it got sooo upset at kids knocking on his door - or even climbing over his fence.

He had a policy of all balls were kept until Saturday motning, when he would throw them all out at once.

chapstickchick Thu 04-Sep-08 22:04:08

really streets arent for playing football in - our children either play football in the garden or at the pitch- the street is not for football precisely for this reason.

SparklyDiscoGirl Thu 04-Sep-08 23:27:29

Good gosh.

I would think more reasonable for your neighbour to be the one on here going 'isn't my neighbour rude'.

She has been mightily polite as you have described the scenario and if you have chosen to do nothing about the problem, then who do you think is really the rude one in given situation?

anyfucker Thu 04-Sep-08 23:29:47

errr, you are the one who is out of order

rather she came to you to tell you politely than to scream at your children

SmugColditz Thu 04-Sep-08 23:31:34

YOU are rude for allowing your children to harrass your neighbour.

handlemecarefully Thu 04-Sep-08 23:34:18

I think this neighbour acted quite responsibly in alerting you to the problem

malovitt Thu 04-Sep-08 23:40:10

My old neighbour used to cut the balls in half then chuck them back.

handlemecarefully Thu 04-Sep-08 23:59:32

sounds like a pyscho!

Wisknit Fri 05-Sep-08 07:40:26

I think she sounds perfectly pleasant and polite. Would irritate me constantly retrieving balls.

GordonTheGopher Fri 05-Sep-08 07:44:31

I wouldn't bother giving them back either.

medogsarebarking Fri 05-Sep-08 07:46:19

I might be a little bit taken aback at the 'prat about' remark - but I completely understand her annoyance and do actually think she was quite nice about it.

handlemecarefully Fri 05-Sep-08 07:51:44

An aside: I meant malovitt's neighbour

Moomin Fri 05-Sep-08 09:26:42

[medogsarebarking - I love your name! I don't anyone else from round my neck of the woods that uses this phrase grin ]

chopchopbusybusy Fri 05-Sep-08 09:33:24

No she's not being rude. I would be seriously pissed off if I had to keep retrieving balls from my garden.

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