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I told my 6yo to go to bed because I didn't want to speak to her right now..

(16 Posts)
MascaraOHara Fri 15-Aug-08 20:12:46

..I can hear her sobbing her heart out.

I feel guilty sad

but I was on the verge of really losing my temper and she was gunning for an all out screaming match

thornrose Fri 15-Aug-08 20:14:40

You know you did the right thing though don't you? When you're on that awful path to all out war, walking away is the way to go. Now you can sort it out without any screaming!

pagwatch Fri 15-Aug-08 20:16:51

she should be in bed by now anyway.
My probs with DD in the last few weeks have all occured when i have let her stay up later than usual because of the hols.
You will both be happier after a good night sleep

MascaraOHara Fri 15-Aug-08 20:17:04

I'm not going up though cos I think she's still on the war path.. just sat here feeling guilty and yet at the same time waiting for round 2.

MascaraOHara Fri 15-Aug-08 20:17:54

the row is because she keeps coming down the stairs tonight..

row has been brewing since 7:30 now

pagwatch Fri 15-Aug-08 20:19:23

don't engage
as my ed psych used to say
adult. child.

pagwatch Fri 15-Aug-08 20:19:34


MascaraOHara Fri 15-Aug-08 20:20:59

lol pagwatch.. she just came a few steps down and asked me if I would tuck her in now and that she would be good.

bless her

priceyp Fri 15-Aug-08 20:21:20

agree with pagwatch, if she comes down again, just quietly put her back upstairs. No chat, just back to bed.

priceyp Fri 15-Aug-08 20:22:07

oops x post, maybe a kiss !!

MatNanPlus Fri 15-Aug-08 20:24:07

hope she is now settled for the night MOH i would only bring it up tomorrow if she mentions it first.

MascaraOHara Fri 15-Aug-08 20:27:05

nah, she's done now.. she hardly ever kicks off, deffo overtired.

kiss & cuddle is part of tucking in routine so I think it'll all be forgotten about in the morning..

at least I can eat my dinner in peace lol

MascaraOHara Fri 15-Aug-08 20:29:42

oh actually, I have a question..

as I have a thread open, I could do with ideas..

when she comes down she's all "I want a cuddle" how do you not engage when they say things like that?

so tonight went

her: "I want a cuddle"
me: "are you going to try and hurt me if I cuddle you"
her: "yes"
me: "well I'm not going to give you a cuddle then"

...and so on...

if I igonre her she would just come downstairs and sit on the TV

MascaraOHara Fri 15-Aug-08 20:30:10

or perhaps she'd actually sit on th settee


MatNanPlus Fri 15-Aug-08 21:43:53


I would probably reply

"When your in bed then i will come up and we can have a nice, gentle cuddle, off you go i'll be up in a minute" type of reply so you have told her your terms [1] her in bed [2] a NICE,GENTLE cuddle

juuule Fri 15-Aug-08 22:00:39

Why would she try and hurt you?

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