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So I went to a friend's house for lunch yesterday....

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Earlybird · 14/02/2005 21:09

.....and she opened a bottle of champagne. She poured a glass for everyone, including a mini glass for her 4 year old dd. She asked me if my dd (same age), would like one, and I politely refused. Must admit I was a bit taken aback. What do you lot think?

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HappyMumof2 · 14/02/2005 21:13

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Hulababy · 14/02/2005 21:13

DD is nearly 2 and had a sip of champagne on my birthday, and at Christmas. It was only a sip though as she really doesn't like it - but wanted to be included. I don't think I would give her her own glass though have to say.

DD's first taste of chamagne was actually in France, when visiting a cave - can't remember which one. She was 18 months old and it was the man taking the tour round, at the end, who handed her a small glass. Hmmm!He told us that in the area, it is quuite common for children, evenv very young ones, are given tastes of the stuff.

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HappyMumof2 · 14/02/2005 21:13

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Angeliz · 14/02/2005 21:13

I'd be the same as you.
Just don't see the point!! (When i'm sure the child would be happier with a glass of juice anyway!)

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Hulababy · 14/02/2005 21:13

Ooops - DD is nearly 3, not 2!

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 14/02/2005 21:14

Very strange behaviour. Fine if it was for an occasion but I would never encourage a 4 year old to drink alcohol whatever the occasion was.
I am sure that 1 glass of champagne (however small) would seriously effect a child so small.

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Angeliz · 14/02/2005 21:14

OOOPS, youy all beat me, you lot are fast!!!

Hope i haven't offended anyone!

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snafu · 14/02/2005 21:15

A sip from your own glass is fair enough, but I don't think I'd give a 4-year-old a glass of champagne, even a 'mini' one.

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lockets · 14/02/2005 21:16

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snafu · 14/02/2005 21:16

LOL lockets - priorities!

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 14/02/2005 21:17

To me it's almost the same as offering a child a puff of a cigarette (another pet hate of mine!)

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lockets · 14/02/2005 21:18

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Hulababy · 14/02/2005 21:19

OMG blossomhill - people don't do that do they? [shhock] But smoking can kill! That should be a definite crime.

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sparklymieow · 14/02/2005 21:19

Ds likes beer and has a small amount when we are on holiday from daddy's beer he is 7 though, wouldn't let my 4 or 3 yr old try it....

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 14/02/2005 21:20

I was speaking hypothetically but I am sure there are people that do though.

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CarrieG · 14/02/2005 21:21

I find it really hard to believe anyone would offer a 4 year old a drag on their cig!

Dh quite often offers ds a 'fingerful' of beer froth to lick, which ds, being a chip off the old block (both old blocks, actually) loves. Don't think he'll be getting his own glass till he's a BIT nearer standing his round tho'!

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 14/02/2005 21:21

The pet hate is smoking. Have to admit I did smoke in my teens but gave up at 21 as I started to cough up blood. That's why I am anti-smoking as I know how damaging it can be!

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Dior · 14/02/2005 21:21

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Twiglett · 14/02/2005 21:21

I think its wrong and unnecessary ... a sip maybe once in a blue moon is different ..

I have known people who pour their children lemonade and call it beer or wine and that always made me wonder what they thought they were doing

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 14/02/2005 21:23

Just makes me cringe when I think of the story that MIL told me. She was in Asda and there were some parents (they were very young) letting there toddler sip from a can of beer. then encouraging the toddler to swear, you know "What are you?"..... Toddler replies "I am a little F'er". Roars of laughter, sorry not funny in my opinion.

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sweetkitty · 14/02/2005 21:24

I remember my mums friend when I was bout 15 or 16 babysitting her neice and alloweing her to puff on her ciggie honestly. Even then I thought it was disgusting.

I think I would let DD have a sip or champagne or put a few drops in some lemonade so she would feel included.

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snafu · 14/02/2005 21:25

Oh, charming. Hopefully parents like that are very few and far between. I'm not sure you can equate giving a small child a sip of champagne to letting them puff on a cigarette, though.

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Dior · 14/02/2005 21:27

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 14/02/2005 21:28

I think it's down to the individual but alcohol isn't legal in this country until 18 years old for a good reason so giving it 14 years before is out of order I think.
Didn't stop me getting drunk on Thunderbirds when I was 15 though

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Hulababy · 14/02/2005 21:28

Dior - yes it can, but not in the same numbers though surely?

I personally don't see alcohol as being as horrid as smoking.

I look at this way. When growing up I saw alcohol around and we were always allowed a sip here and there. Alcohol wasn't a hidden, banned thing for me - so it was never something I was curious about. I never did the drinking in the streets, or downing bottles of cider as a teen. Some of my friends did though and IME they were the ones who had alcohol as some big taboo at home.

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