My 4.5 year old son has never been easy but good god, he is pushing my boundaries at the moment. I am finding it incredibly hard to get out of the negative, shouty parenting mode. When I try to talk calmly and rationally to him, he puts his hands over his ears and yells: DON'T TALK TO ME. He doesn't listen until I yell.
I know that when I try to make things a game instead of head to head conflict it does work, as does praising the positive etc but we're on one of those diminishing spirals where there is less and less positive stuff to praise. And even when he does do something 'good' he almost immediately undoes it.
EVery day I wake up and think: Today is going to be a positive day. And by the time I put them to bed, I can barely bring myself to kiss him goodnight and he's usually got me in tears. It's got to the point where I'm willing to pay £90 for a parenting counselling session but really just want a reminder of some good tips that will work.
I hate posting these kinds of posts because I always find myself becoming defensive and thinking: but I've done that and it doesnt't work and these people who seem to think it's so easy obviously don't have a child like this. But I refuse to get defensive. I'm listening. I need help.
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JoshandJamie · 24/07/2008 21:20
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