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Could they do a week rather than 2?

No, I couldn't have done it at that age.

I would let him go if he wants to go. But talk to him and make it clear that this is a treat and not a way of pusing him out. Depends on the child really my dd would go.

It's very sweet of your parents but I'd think carefully. We took ds to Florida aged 3 months for a wedding and left dd behind (she was nearly 3 at the time) and it took her ages to get over it. She definitely felt neglected, I think, and we had a couple of months of sleep and behaviour problems. I think it's easier to underestimate how traumatic it can be for children when a sibling arrives - they all cope eventually, but sending him on a holiday, however wonderful, might send the wrong message. I think it depends on your ds, I suppose, and his temperament.

Could you ask your parents to delay it a bit? Or keep the offer open until next year when he will be older and really will have a great time and there wouldn't be any issues with the baby?

I wouldn't. It's too far away. Why don't they just have him stay at their house and go for days out?

I don't know... I think I would be oscillating too - it's a great and really thoughtful offer from your parents.

The only thing I can say is that when ds2 was born, I'd organised ds1 (then also 3) to stay up with my sister-in-law and brother-in-law for 3 days. He was fine up there, and really enjoyed himself with his cousins... BUT...

... I came home from the hospital 7 hours after the birth and was DESPERATE to see ds1. It felt wrong him not being there too. So ended up sending dh on a 4hr round trip to fetch him back .

I was glad I did though as ds1 was amazed at his little brother, it was lovely for him to be included at that time, and they've had a very good relationship since (though the latter could be coincidence, of course). He also adores babies even now. Might that still have been the case if he hadn't been back with his brother early on? Probably - that's the problem with anecdotal evidence after all - but I'm glad he was there.

Obviously, if your ds is in Greece it's much harder to change your mind . Maybe somewhere for a shorter time and nearer to home?

No way would I allow this but thats mainly because I wouldnt trust my parents!

Its a long way if he (or they) have had enough and want to come home!

Could he cope with the heat?

RubberDuck, that's exactly how I felt after having ds2. I really wanted to get home to my other baby.

I don't think I would - 2 weeks is a long time, especially to be abroad.

When ds was a couple of weeks old, dd (who was almost 3) got chicken pox so her aunt looked after her for 3 or 4 days. They are very close but dd was upset and angry with us when she came home. And we were all in London, spoke very day on the phone etc.

My new baby is 11 weeks old now and my 2-year-old is still struggling a bit with insecurity and feeling generally unsettled. 2-year-old is usually a very laid back, easy going child and I've been surprised by how hard she's taken having a baby brother. I have been very glad indeed that since baby bro got here I've been able to keep things calm and consistant and be there for her as much as I was pre-baby. My answer would be a definite no, I wouldn't have let her go for fear of reinforcing the idea that "mummy has a new baby now and you're not included."

No I wouldn't. It wouldn't feel right at all to me. I would want us all together as a family getting used to being with each other and our newest member.

He is very mature (for a 3-year-old ) and I am reasonably comfortable with my parents on safety etc. .... While I would definitely ask him if he wants to go, I expect that he would say yes but not understand the implications of it at all. He has no concept of what 2 weeks means. He also has no idea how the new baby will make him feel at this stage.

Would he not be happy to have all the attention focused on him, rather than sharing it with the new baby?

Your parents could take him off your hands during hte day while you spend time with your new baby, then deliver him home at night. You can then have some time cuddling him and asking him what he did with granny and grandad during the day.

No matter how mature he is (how mature can a 3yo be with regard to something like this) I would want him at home with us and the new baby.

Her parents are going to Greece, lazarou. I suspect they couldn't get her ds back for the evenings

I just think it can be quite distressing for a toddler to be so far away from his parents. I also think you will miss him like crazy.

No way I would do it
Very big chance of ds feeling pushed out - and at too young an age to understand and explain his feelings
Very sweet of your parents but I think he needs to be with you at this time

Oh, are they going to Greece anyway?

Well, I guess I could ask them to stay but since this is their holiday that they booked last year and I would have MIL here to help, I think it would not be fair.

I say let him go. When i had the last baby the other children went to stay with their Dad and his girlfriend.

They saw the baby and me at home then off they went, i was worried about how they would be, especially the 2 and half year old but he was fine!

If he is as comfortable with the Grandparents as he is with you then i am sure he will be ok.

The only thing is if he is not they are a long way away. Mine were only 10 minutes down the road.

Tough decision.

I just assumed they were going to Greece anyway and had offered to take your ds with them. If your ds didn't go I didn't think you meant that you would consider asking them to cancel their holiday.
Are you worried about being able to cope with the new baby and a toddler? Are you on your own?

i dont think i would, ask them to mind him when the baby is born, at home instea, thanking them very much

I wouldn't.

I think it may send a message that you don't want him around (even if it's not true!) and I think it's important for siblings to be involved in the arrival of the new baby. It may be that he's so busy having fun in Greece he wouldn't think twice, but then he may feel very pushed away. At that age everything's very black and white, he may not understand your reasoning.

I'm no child psychologist but I would worry that he will feel that you sent him away because you don't want him around now you have a new baby.

It's a lovely idea and I'm sure meant very kindly but I don't think it's the best thing for him tbh