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Am I mean?

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babyOcho Fri 18-Jul-08 12:32:01

I am reluctant to have DP's parents look after 4mo DD. MIL doesnt really have use of hands (arthritis) and FIL has proudly told how he has never changed a nappy. Both have problems bending down to floor level and have even more problems getting up!

Am I being mean?

Lauriefairycake Fri 18-Jul-08 12:33:57

well, someone has to change the nappy if you leave him there more than a couple of hours......

and the second problem, don't leave her on the floor grin

missingtheaction Fri 18-Jul-08 12:34:50

do they want to/think they are up to it?

LoveMyGirls Fri 18-Jul-08 12:35:44

No you're being practical, nice of them to offer to help, they might manage with her while she is tiny and when she is much bigger (like 4yrs) but the toddler age is hard work even for a young person so I think it wouldn't be a long term solution tbh. Maybe you could use a childminder (I'm one so I'm biased) then they can step in when your cm is on holiday or sick then it won't be too much for them.

milknosugar Fri 18-Jul-08 12:35:56

you both need to be 100% happy with who looks after your dd. yanbu to not want them to, but that might rule out your parents as far as dh is concerned

scattyspice Fri 18-Jul-08 12:36:22

No your not being mean, you shouldn't leave your child with anyone you're not totally happy with. Let them 'look after' the baby when you're around. Maybe they will prove themselves up to the job and you'll feel happier if not stick to your guns.

babyOcho Fri 18-Jul-08 12:37:11

they want to, but i dont think that they are up to it.
i am paranoid that they wont physically be able to cater for her needs if we're not around.

TillyScoutsmum Fri 18-Jul-08 12:37:12

No - dd is 14 months and I've still not left her with my mum for similar reasons

<<Hijack alert>> - Lovemygirls - we're all dying to see pics of your dress trying on session. Come back and talk to us please smile

LoveMyGirls Fri 18-Jul-08 12:39:33

I keep meaning to TSM but no idea how to get the pics on here to show you mn doesnt recognise my password so can't have a profile etc I decided not to go for any in the end, none of them were quite right, fabulous shop though and NJM made me feel like a princess but alas.....the search continues!

2point4kids Fri 18-Jul-08 12:40:18

Maybe you could ask them to look after her in your house for a few hours so you can catch up on some 'work' or clean or have a long bath etc and then you'll be there on hand if they cant cope.
If they are ok then you can go out next time and not worry!

TillyScoutsmum Fri 18-Jul-08 12:41:50

LMG - that's a shame. No links to any of the designer websites ? Come back and chat

Stopfighting Fri 18-Jul-08 12:41:55

You cannot and should not leave your baby with anyone you're not 100% comfortable with.

No debate

No guilt.

LoveMyGirls Fri 18-Jul-08 12:42:58

If you bump the thread I'll come back, it's dropped of my threads im on and i can't find it blush TIA

TillyScoutsmum Fri 18-Jul-08 12:49:47


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