I've had very mixed emotions about having a second. Sometimes I wanted to sometimes not. Mostly based on the fact that I love my little family unit and didn't want to upset that, didn't think I could love another etc etc. I think the decision to go from one to two is much harder than 0 to one in my book.
yes it is weird as all my friends all the ones that have children have one atm, say oh yes we definatly want another one at least, then when i say im not sure they look horrified! then i think well perhaops if im not sure i dont really want another one.
and it just makes me wonder, how people that know , know!
thats when i thought it woudl be like when your in love you just know!
Most of my 'mummy friends' have jsut had their 2nd babies, and I thought that seeing them with theirs would help me decide, but as one has got an angel baby who makes me v. broody, and another has got The Incredible No-Sleep Baby, I'm no closer to a decision.
I think if you don't know at 12mo then it's too early to say that means no altogether.
I was unsure for quite a while, particularly given horrendous birth I had, but DS is 14mo now and I am now fairly sure we will try and have another one. I don't want him to be an only one, I want him to have someone to share his childhood memories with.
It all depends how you old you are really as to whether you can just sit tight for a bit and wait and see how you feel in a few years. How ould you feel if you left it too late and then couldn't have another baby?
After having ds I thought I didn't want anymore children, so did dh. I sold all my baby items. I resigned to the fact that this was it! I am now alomst 12 weeks pg with number 2, ds is 3.5 I am 31 and I always thought that 35 would be my deadline for having another one, I kept saying well if I don't do it by then then it will just be ds! No idea why I picked that age, it just seemed the answer.
You have to remember your dd is only 12 months and as they say the first year is the hardest, especially your first baby (not sure who said this tho lol!) If you only want one child then that is entirely your choice, and your choice only.
lovelysongbird I have 1 DD 22 months and one BFP this morning and emotions are very high at the moment. Like I said, my main concern when thinking about DC2 was the upset it would cause to our little family. I just didn't want to spoil what we had. But, the decision has been taken out of my hands now anyway!