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Am i being unfair?

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fifibella Fri 11-Jul-08 17:05:22

dd has just turned 2 and i keep getting asked when am i taking her to nursery or she should be going to nursery now.

I am a SAHM which i love and I am going to take her to pre school in a year or so.

We go out regularly, park and walks (when its not raining), visiting rels, swimming and she plays happily at home. I was taking her to a toddler gym but stopped a few weeks ago (am pg with no 2 and due very soon). I am going to take her again after baby is born.

She is not a shy toddler and she is not shy around other children.

I just know I'm being talked about because she doesn't go to nursery.

BTW its dh's family that keep asking me. When i was taking her to the gym MIL used to say "well it gets you out of the house doesn't it", i think she thinks that i stare at four walls all day.

I just enjoy her being with me at the moment and its not long before they are starting school anyway. Time seems to go so quick.

I'm beginning to wonder if I'm being unfair to dd.

MamaG Fri 11-Jul-08 17:07:19

I sent DS to nursery 2 mornings a week when he was 3

I relished my time with him up until then

Main reason for me sending him was so he'd make friends with the children he'd be going to school with.

Don't let them pressure you. You might find when you have dc2 that you'll be glad to send DD to nursery for a morning or two, but you may not!

You're not being unfair. Just go with what YOU are comfortable with and what you htink she needs.

edam Fri 11-Jul-08 17:08:23

No, of course you aren't being unfair, don't be daft!

OomphreyCushion Fri 11-Jul-08 17:08:34

No, you're not being unfair to your DD.
She is 2.
There is plenty of time for playgroups, nursery etc etc, when (and if) you think it's time. smile

TillyScoutsmum Fri 11-Jul-08 17:09:24

You're not being unfair to her at all. She gets lots of activities and gets to see other people so I'm sure she's being well stimulated. I suppose the only possibly problem is her not settling well at pre school because she's not used to you not being around

Shoegazer Fri 11-Jul-08 20:26:55

You are not being unfair at all! I am the only one amongst the other mums I know who sends their 2 year old to nursery so I am the unusual one around here. I only send her because I work nights and so need to sleep, otherwise I would have her at home with me. There is no rush at all!

minniedot Fri 11-Jul-08 21:24:18

If you are both happy with your situation (which it sounds like you are ) keep things as they are. Like you say time goes so quick.

I have a nearly 2 year old that will be starting at a pre-school in Sept for 2 mornings a week. I decided on this because he doesn't really see any people his own age for any length of time, we go swimming, soft play etc, but he is quite shy and sometimes quite awkward around toddlers, so I'm going to give it a go and see if he enjoys it, if not I'll pull him out and start again in 6 months.

bonnibaby Fri 11-Jul-08 21:31:06

At 2?
No you are not being unfair.
My son is 2 and a half and doesnt go to nursery.
We go to a "playschool" where i stay with him and his 7 mth sister so he mixes with other children and do other stuff like you do too.
To be honest im a bit shocked that people would think a 2 year old "should" be going to nursery.
I have nothing against this but surely its the choice of the parents whether they want/need their child to go or not .

samsonthecat Fri 11-Jul-08 22:01:12

I used to get exactly the same comments as youwhen DD1 was 2. Like you I didn't want to send her to nursery because I enjoyed doing things with her. When DD2 was born I started her in nursery 2 mornings a week at the age of 2.7 as I found it really hard work with 2 children. DD1 loves it and is just comming to the end of her first year there. It works for all of us because I get to do activities with DD2 like baby swimming that I did with DD1 and then get some time with DD1 after lunch when DD2 is asleep. It also keeps me sane as life with 2 small daughters is pretty mad! :0

crokky Fri 11-Jul-08 22:03:25

I think it's fine. My DS is 2 and he hasn't been anywhere yet. I'm going to start him in a nursery that's attached to a school after he is 3. He sees other toddlers in a group and he is fine with them.

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