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An end to the Mommy Wars.......please!!!

(29 Posts)
BigTummyMummy Thu 10-Jul-08 13:36:36

("Mummy wars" sounded too Egyptian!)

In one corner we have working mums, in the other corner SAHMs, in the middle we have a giant catfight about "quality time", amount of money spent on toys, SAHM's letting themselves go, blah blah blah.....

Well it is all a crock of crap. Each family situation is different and why do we have to categorize ourselves anyhow? Some people work part-time so are a bit of everything, some people are childminders so work from home. We are all mummies and we all work, whether it is in the home or outside from 9-5.

Will you join me in my quest to call a truce and respect that each mother is darn well entitled to work as much or as little as her financial situation or wellbeing calls for?

Tortington Thu 10-Jul-08 13:38:36

no i will not

SAHMS sit on their arses all day

the common ones watch loose women

the poncey ones radio 4

both lazy load of gits who should get a goddam job.

pu nooooooooooo

petunia need them more

like bullshit.

and cleaning house isn't a farking career - and its not hard either

Iklboo Thu 10-Jul-08 13:39:45

A mum is a mum in her childrens' eyes
I was a SAHM mum for a while - DS loves me
I went back to work - DS loves me

PAX matres (or did I just order a pizza there?)

Goober Thu 10-Jul-08 13:41:09

Bloody hell Custardo. Have a fag will you?!

BigTummyMummy Thu 10-Jul-08 13:46:39

<puts down white flag and glares at Custardo>

That is ridiculous. Running a house can be harder than office work - I have done both and had a job where I was at work ON THE INTERNET LOOKING AT SITES LIKE THESE all day cause I was so bored, now I only get on twice a week.

BTW I don't have time to watch TV or listen to the radio, I am busy cooking, cleaning, going out with baby etc

welshmum Thu 10-Jul-08 13:49:12

There'd nothing to talk about, MN would be too dull, we only do it to keep ourselves vaguely occupied....everyone sensible knows it's an indulgent conceit to keep on arguing to toss but hell it passes the time....

redrobin Thu 10-Jul-08 13:51:34

hahhahahhahahahhahahhahahahhahahhahha custardo you total warmonger!!

nooka Thu 10-Jul-08 13:51:58

It's an argument I can't have anywhere else (because in RL everyone I know is too busy running their own lives to worry about mine) so no way. I need more arguments! grin

seeker Thu 10-Jul-08 13:53:52

I am a SAHM and I haven't been reduced to watching Radio 4. Yet.

Goober Thu 10-Jul-08 13:54:07

I would not judge either as I couldn't give a monkey's arse what Nice People do during the day.
What's it to you if somebody wants to sit on their butt all day, or if somebody else doesn't get to see their DCs until it is time for bed???
I am concerned about my family, not yours. You tend to find that judgy types don't have a lot going on in their own lives, so like to watch others.

Iklboo Thu 10-Jul-08 13:56:15

'SAHM sitting on bums all day doing nowt' seems (a lot of the time) to be a blokes misconception about how easy it is to be a parent.
I work full time, DH is self employed.
I get DS ready for bed, all is OK
DH gets DS ready for bed - 'tis WAR grin

Tortington Thu 10-Jul-08 13:56:52

,,,,,,,,,too busy cooking cleaning - cooking cleaning
i work all day then cook and clean

all i can say is - you SAHMS can't be doing it right if you have to spend all farking day doing it...every day.

sallyforth Thu 10-Jul-08 13:59:12

Noooooooo, we NEED the sahm/wohm mommy wars or we will have to argue over things like bf/ff instead...... and that's far worse.....

WilfSell Thu 10-Jul-08 14:00:30


are you new here BTM?

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Tortington Thu 10-Jul-08 14:33:49

she is off to shine the sink

BigTummyMummy Thu 10-Jul-08 14:42:08

No I am not new here WS, just a normal, rational, educated woman who thinks that life would be easier if women stopped judging each other so harshly

Goodness only knows we already get judged harshly by men, a) we work but have flexible hours/occasionally need time off for sick children and so get knives in the back, b) we "sit at home all day" watching TV blah blah blah.

FluffyMummy123 Thu 10-Jul-08 14:42:29

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nkf Thu 10-Jul-08 14:43:33

But not everyone agrees with your point. Hence the arguments.

ProfessorGrammaticus Thu 10-Jul-08 14:44:02

grin custy!

FluffyMummy123 Thu 10-Jul-08 14:44:49

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GoathasstoppedLOLing Thu 10-Jul-08 14:45:06

rofl @ custardo - [mutters mommy wars my arse]

GoathasstoppedLOLing Thu 10-Jul-08 14:45:44

what is seomahc?

Tortington Thu 10-Jul-08 14:46:38

yeah 'n' world peace would be nice 'n' all


i saw this and thought of SAHMS

waffletrees Thu 10-Jul-08 14:53:24

Didn't realise that you had a job Custardo as you seem to be here all day! You must be:
a) the boss
b) have a very cool boss
c) have a boss that is clueless

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