My 2 year old seems to have gone off me and I am finding myself getting very upset about this.
It all started about 2 or 3 weeks ago, the main thing that happened around this time is that my partner went away on business for 2 weeks. I went down to my Mum and Dad's for that time and we had a lovely 2 weeks, lots of walks in the country, fun with grandparents and we seemed to be the closest ever, she came in every morning and her first words were 'I love you Mummy'. When my partner came back she was firstly really upset to see him, cried for about 15 mins and we were all a bit shocked at her because she never cries even when held by a complete stranger, etc but after this she was very loving.
Some time (can't remember exactly how long) after this she started coming out with 'Daddy do it' when I was trying to give her breakfast or read a book with her or put her down for a sleep etc. TBH after 2 weeks of doing everything I didn't mind her insisting on Daddy! However, this has continued and she has become a lot more passionate. If I even follow her down the stairs now she says 'go away Mummy', even when Daddy isn't anywhere near her. She generally tells me to go away or leave her alone a few times a day now.
First of all I used to let Daddy do whatever she wanted him to do. Then I tried ingnoring her dislike of me and would carry on doing whatever it was she was protesting about but she would become even more upset with me. Finally I have found I just walk away when she starts and the past couple of days I have gone somewhere and had a cry.
The other factors which may contribute is she has been ill for the past 4 or 5 days but it has been me getting up in the middle of the night for her and she lets me settle her then. The other thing is I'm 21 weeks pregnant and showing more and more each day, could she realise what's coming and resent me already? Also, she has just started 2 mornings a week at a nursery which her first 'on her own' day last week went terribly (she cried most of the morning apparently) but this I have now put down to her first day of her illness as she did cling to me for the rest of the afternoon.
We've always had a lovely relationship, I've been at home since she was born and so we've had the chance to do lots together, classes, swimming, music, walking, drawing, etc. We have also moved house recently so are trying to build up new classes to do, etc, so we are doing a little less in the day than we used to, especially with all this wet weather.
Anyway, what I'm really trying to ask is if anyone has had this happen to them and how did they deal with it? Dare I also ask how long this lasts? Do you think it's something I've done? Is there some real 'bonding' activity someone can think of?
Sorry this is so long.
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Daughter seems to have completely gone off me, what can I do? (long one)
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Janus · 25/11/2002 10:43
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