Co-Sleeping...what do you HONESTLY think?

[SuperGrrrl]

DS2 is sleeping in our room as we only have 2 bedrooms at the moment. He starts off in his cot, but when he wakes in the night,i bring him into bed.

I know you aren't 'supposed' to do it, but it's v cuddly and easy, and i usually just breastfeed him lying down in bed then through the night.

I'm conscious that it may make moving him into DS1s room more difficult though, or that we might never get him out of our bed.

We DO have a duvet, which is never on him. We don't smoke, but we do have a drink many evenings before bed.

Has anyone co slept and found that they've (to use that lovely phrase) made a rod for their own back? (He's almost 4mths BTW)

[DualCycloneCod]

oh eh is titchy!

[Anna8888]

I think co-sleeping is fine but please, please don't do it if you have had a drink before bed.

[nailpolish]

i did it
loved it

no rod for back

[LaDiDaDi]

I wouldn't have a drink and co-sleep tbh.

I co-slept off and on when dd was tiny. Dp didn't feel comfortable with it but I liked it. I don't think it made any difference to getting her to sleep in her own cot.

[flowerybeanbag]

I don't and have no plans to but may I ask a question?

How does you have a sex life if you share a bed with DCs? I am curious!

[GetOrfMoiLand]

I did this with dd. There was never a problem, she slept with me on and off for a couple of years.

I am glad I did it because it was lovely to have nightime cuddles, as I worked ft from when she was tiny, I missed her awfully in the day and it nice to have special time at night, albeit when we were both asleep.

She's 12 now and she never comes in my bed for a cuddle now, I think I would have to pay her . So no rods for back here either.

[berolina]

We co-sleep. Sometimes I will have half a glass of wine in the evening, but if I do I always wait at least an hour after finishing it before going to bed.

[GetOrfMoiLand]

However always out her to sleep in her own bed/cot. If she cried in the night (whilst a baby) she used to come in my bed then, and when she was older toddled into bed on her own in the middle of night. So was not co-sleeping as such.

[LadyOfWaffle]

Co-sleeping is the best thing since sliced bread - I agree with the woman who says that co-sleeping up until 5 is good. I co-slept from night 2 (I thought it was a very bad thing to do at first) until about a year, then now at 22 months he is in about 1 night a week (whenever he wants to).

[SuperGrrrl]

should add DS usually doesn't come to bed until around 2hrs or more after we had a drink..if that makes a difference.

sex in a bed? what's that?! (both my kids we conceived on the living room floor....how common of me! )

[flowerybeanbag]

No not only, but mostly!

[RedJools]

I was too scared to with no 1, and spent many horrible nights sitting weeping with fatigue in a chair trying not to fall asleep while breastfeeding. When dd2 came along 17mths later was just too knackered, so brought her in for a feed like you say, and dozed while she fed. Sometimes I woke up and put her back, sometimes I didn't. I had no problems getting her into her own bed- in fact she was easier than her sister, and continues to love her own bed. Ds is 15wks and I do the same again. I do often have a glass of wine in the evening- I don't see the problem, I stay up to feed him at 11-ish, then he doesn't come into the bed until 5am-ish, so any alcohol will be well out of my system, and I am unlikely to be in a drunken stupor. I think dd2 and ds fed and slept better because I was more relaxed bringing them in. Wrt sex- just make the most of the first half of the night !

[MrsTittleMouse]

I know that it would have made things much easier when DD was tiny, but I didn't, because DD was a stubborn little thing (bless her!) and I knew that it would be very difficult to get her back in a cot once she was in our bed.
I did hate having to drag myself out of bed to pick her up though, and we ended up with the Moses basket on our bed as a compromise.

[oranges]

I did it when he was tiny, but did wake one night to see I'd trapped his leg under me and he was mewling pitifully. So stopped for a while. Do bring him into bed now (he's 2) for nightmares or if he's ill but to be honest, I do prefer him in the cot.

[sweetkitty]

Did it with both DDs loved it both good sleepers in their own beds now.

Would echo the no drinking rule though, even one glass of wine would have knocked me out whilst having a newborn baby.

I had a bedside cot for DD2 loved it.

As for sex just don't do it in bed with the baby.

If you consider it's only in the last 100-150 years that special baby beds with bars have been used we as a species have been cosleeping for centuries and most in other countries still do. A lot of cultures would find putting a small bay in a cot with bars totally bizarre.

[TheProdigalShow]

Oh I love it. Can't think of any other or better way for us. I sleep, DH sleeps, dd sleeps.

I don't drink at all though and wouldn't co-sleep if I did.

Tis a lovely thing when done safely.

[needmorecoffee]

dd has been co-sleeping for 4 years. We don't have abedroom for her (DH sleeps onna sofa) and she has night seizures so needs to be close so I'll wake up - they are non-convulsive so hard to spot. I would like to stop one day but an unnoticed seizure will kill her so don't know what to do.

[EffiePerine]

At 4 months I really really wouldn;t worry about making a rod for your own back. We co-slept on and off from birth then full-time from about 6 months when I got soo tired of trying (unsuccessfully) to get DS to sleep in his cot. We then got him into his own cot at about 15 months when he wsa so big and active that no-one was getting much sleep.

[oranges]

needmorecoffee my cousin had this and did outgrow it eventually but it was tough on her parents.

[nappyaddict]

that sounds fine but i think i would start him off in your bed rather than his cot cos then as he gets older it will stop him waking up just so he can come in your bed iyswim.

[Indith]

Co sleeping is fab. Ds used to go down in his cot in his own room as we needed to be working in our room but would come in withus when he woke to feed. Eventually he started to prefer settling back in his cot rather than our bed but stopping was entirely up to him (to the extenct that I would be in denial in a warm bed with ds refusing to settle and dp would have to take him and put him in his cot where he would fall asleep instantly)

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