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alexsmum Mon 28-Oct-02 22:45:38

.is this so irritating???
My 2and ahalf year old has just discovered the word why, and is using it constantly.
He's not asking questions just responding to all my comments and questions with the word why.
Any tips on how to keep calm and maybe discourage this endless use of it???

Janeway Mon 28-Oct-02 23:05:59

My mum always responded to "Why?" with "Why do you think....?" - it worked every time (but perhaps I was either too dim, or too ready to please/think for myself)

Marina Mon 28-Oct-02 23:12:20

I find "and why are you called X (insert name of horrid child)?" works. He just laughs, "Because I am", and we both accept that this particular line of questioning has run its course. Bit like Janeway's mum's solution. He is back asking again in five minutes, though - but now, at three, he is mostly asking for information. The why why why phase passed quite quickly in our house.

Tortington Mon 28-Oct-02 23:51:54

"because i say so"
works to this day!

SueDonim Tue 29-Oct-02 02:44:04

My 6 yr old still asks 'why' all the time, although it's in a different context to when she was 2 and said it. Sometimes I'm not sure they even want/need an answer, it's just something for them to say. When I've asked dd why she says 'why' all the time she says "because I want to know everything in the world.' in which case she's asking the wrong person, lol! When at the end of my tether I come out with my long dead grandpa's stock answer - "To make you ask questions."

monkey Tue 29-Oct-02 07:21:30

I quite like some of the why q's - although I might have to dig out an encyclopedia - mummy why is the moon still out? (Oh blimey - he's going to twig any day that I'm really thick). But it's when I tell him to be careful on the stairs/not to drop books & he asks why - that is very irritating. am I can deal with it. By bedtime I feel like putting my face 1 inch from his & screaming! I never would of course.

Dh's tolerence levels are much lower though, and even though he only sees them on a weekend, after half an hour he's getting really snappy with the 'why's' Any ideas on coping with a husband coping with the whys??

Girly Tue 29-Oct-02 08:30:02

JUST BECAUSE!!!!!!!!!!!

sis Tue 29-Oct-02 11:31:06

Ah but Girly that one waas met with " mummy, what is because?"!!!!!

badjelly Tue 29-Oct-02 15:04:11

I always got "because Y's a crooked letter and you can't straighten it" off my dad. Took me years to work out!

Clarinet60 Tue 29-Oct-02 15:10:42

My Ds seems to be using this as a way of getting the conversation to carry on longer.

sb34 Fri 29-Nov-02 23:09:29

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MandyD Fri 29-Nov-02 23:39:13

I can't say "Because I say so" or "Just because" as I don't hear anything else but that from DS, 3½, for weeks after!!

Demented Sat 30-Nov-02 00:12:26

If I say "Just because" to DS1, almost 4, I get "Why just because?". Arrrrgh!!!

SoupDragon Sat 30-Nov-02 08:21:54

Why DO colours go darker when they're wet??

I can sympathise with this as DS1 (3y9m) asks constant questions. His have moved into "What would happen if..." and are virtually impossible to answer! Aaagh! I use the "Well, what do you think wuld happen if..." way of switching it back to him but this only works occasionally as he then asks the same of me.

mollipops Sat 30-Nov-02 14:01:56

I remember a friend telling her 5 year old daughter that if she asked WHY one more time, there'd be trouble. Clever girl then asked, "How come?"

sb34 Sat 30-Nov-02 15:40:52

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joben Sun 01-Dec-02 20:05:40

I read somewhere (Rudolph Steiner, maybe)that if you come up with an answer to every question that your child asks,he/she will eventually lose their childlike curiosity telling themselves that mum/dad will tell me (they know everything) so they stop investigating/exploring/imagining/fantasising for themselves and thus have limited imaginations. This sounds rather extreme, I think but there could be some truth in it. Does anybody know anything more about it?

zebra Sun 01-Dec-02 21:08:29

Janeway: we do what your mother did. I don't know what inspired me, but when DS said "What's that?!" for the 100th time, I just said, "What do you think it is?" He can usually find the answer for himself. It keeps me sane.

Luckily, we're scientists, So I know "why" the sky is blue (Mie scattering), but can I explain it to a 3yo??, ha!

zebra Sun 01-Dec-02 21:10:22

ps: I presume...
Clothes go darker when they're wet because they reflect less light (water absorbs more light)...

alexsmum Mon 02-Dec-02 00:37:28

Truly I would be happy to answer his questions if he was asking me for eg."why is the sky blue?" But its not like that, its more like this;
" come on darling,put your coat on"
" why?"
"because we're going out and we need to keep warm"
" because its not nice to be cold"
"it makes us feel uncomfortable"
Ad infinitum.

SoupDragon Mon 02-Dec-02 09:34:56

DS1 "Why do monkey's have legs?"
Me: "So they can walk"
DS1 "Why do monkeys have legs so they can walk?"
Me "aaaaaggggghhhhh!"

beejay Mon 02-Dec-02 13:39:34

After the 5th question I always answer:
why does my daughter ask so many questions?
Unfortuately she responds with:
Why does my mother talk so much!

hmb Mon 02-Dec-02 14:11:41

It got to the point with Dd that I would only answer a question that was a complete sentence. If she was interested enough to do that she was interested in the answer. Just saying 'why' was a reflex/wind up, and she wasn't interested in the reply.

She still askes the most amazing questions. My fave was 'Why are we here?' I couldn't make out if that was practical, geography or philosophical in nature!

titchy Mon 02-Dec-02 16:07:30

I've just had 'why do we get presents at Xmas?'

Do I tell her now about commercialisation and exploitation or leave that until next year.....

XAusted Mon 02-Dec-02 21:04:08

alexsmum, I've got an Alex too and he asks the same questions. Sometimes I think "Why?" will be the last word of either dd or ds. EG, "Get off the road!" "Why?" SPLAT! "That's why."

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