Can anyone recommend a good parenting course please?

[Hairyhat]

I feel like I'm failing. I'm a lone parent. I'm struggling with my 12 year olds behaviour (and language). I feel like I need a parenting course or some help before they go off the rails. I've had a look online but there are so many. Any recommendations would be gratefully received.

[CiaoForDiNiaoSaur]

I've done the Triple P which was good. I have no idea how you get put on it though (I was put on it by a family worker)

[Hairyhat]

Thanks for replying @CiaoForDiNiaoSaur

[quinin]

Strengthening families, strengthening communities was pretty useful, especially if you have older children. Tends to run for free in schools. You don't have to ha e children at the school to attend.

[Fireblanket]

I did the Incredible Years one which was useful but that was years ago and i'm not sure if it's still going

[Peaplant20]

Your school might be able to put you on the triple P course… the school I work at does

[Hairyhat]

Thank you everyone. I feel so ashamed. But I will ask the school

[Fireblanket]

@Hairyhat

Thank you everyone. I feel so ashamed. But I will ask the school

Don't ever feel ashamed, Hairyhat. You are showing what a fabulous mum you are by acknowledging that you are finding things hard and are seeking help. That takes courage and is a fantastic thing to be role-modelling to your DC.

[Hairyhat]

Thanks @Fireblanket you are kind to say that.

[MarloMakes]

I found the book... 'how to talk so teens will listen' good. Helps strengthen parent/child relationships

[BertieBotts]

Not a course but the book Raising Human Beings. It outlines Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative Problem Solving model, which is more effective for teens than anything involving reward and punishment or trying to get them to just do what they are told without question.

He also has a talk about it on youtube (the model was first developed for children with special needs, but RHB is how to use it with children without SN as it works well here too.)

Here is the talk playlist (click through for whole thing):

[FireandBrimstone]

Just jumping on to say please don't be hard on yourself. Whatever you're dealing with isn't your 'fault'. There could be all sorts of other challenges playing a part here. Quite apart from the rollercoaster of a year or so that our children are still having to process (the impact of which could be profound, and could show in very different ways from child to child). Could you possibly speak to someone at your child's school to find out what they're experiencing at school and if there are resources or support available through them? And also chat through with friends who are also parents just to get a bit of perspective that takes the focus away from you needing to take a course? You're not alone handling this, and whilst I'm not at all knocking 'courses' of any kind - it's not necessarily a question of 'fixing you'.

[Hairyhat]

You are all being so kind. I can't help but blame myself. Thanks for the resources and book recommendations. I will have a look at those.