12 year olds

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CurryLover55 Mon 11-Oct-21 18:57:56

I’m finding this age really challenging! DD is quite young for her age which throws up more problems & I worry she will be easily led. She’s definitely a people pleaser which sometimes gets her into trouble. Then there’s the dreaded hormones! Anyone else struggling with pre - teens? I miss my cuddly 5 year old who thought I was the best Mum ever!

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CurryLover55 Mon 11-Oct-21 20:09:15

Anyone out there?

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CurryLover55 Wed 13-Oct-21 18:12:03


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BingoandBluey Wed 13-Oct-21 18:14:38

Bumping for you!

Scoleah Wed 13-Oct-21 19:03:34

Hi Curry!
Yes Im finding this age super stressful, my DD is really pushing my buttons.
I'm the worst because all her friends are apparently Vaping, drinking, staying out until 10 & I won't let her.
The attitude, the eye rolling, it's horrible and seems never ending!

CurryLover55 Wed 13-Oct-21 20:00:19

Oh my goodness I haven’t had any of that yet! Apart from the attitude! Trying to ignore her potty mouth too as it’s mainly showing off in front of her mates. I did tell her off for saying “ Suck my d**ck” tho!

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Nachitoches Wed 13-Oct-21 20:05:42

My 12 year old dd is finding school brutal at the moment; just the constant oneupmanship and screeching girls vying for attention. She has friends but finds navigating the social side exhausting. Roll on half term!


Nachitoches Wed 13-Oct-21 20:06:55

She was awful for swearing last year during lockdown which caused many rows but after I was advised to ignore it, she seems to have grown out of it finally.

Blinkingbatshit Wed 13-Oct-21 20:13:58

My 12yo dd is having a dreadful time at school☹️…..she is also ‘young for her age’, i’d say more yr7 than 8 and she’s being picked on awfully by both the girls and boys. This coupled with the hormone surge is making her truly miserable - to be fair desperately want to sit down and cry over it all myself but keeping a brave face on for her😢

Scoleah Wed 13-Oct-21 21:07:32

Mine is hating school at the moment too,
There were only 7 of them that went down from year 6 to the comp , 2 of them being girls, so they were close, but have grown apart in school/being in lockdown. She's tried making new friends but they seem to fall out so quickly, and girls can be so nasty.
So she is now sitting & eating alone lunch times . sad
Social media is our biggest problem at the moment, she wants to make herself look older m & like the rest of her peers (but they are all wearing skimpy clothes and lots of makeup!) . I thought comp was horrid when I was there 20 years ago, but I'm glad I wasn't there now phones & social media are involved, if it's not posted online, then it didn't happen! Their lives are online!

I miss the primary school days!

Blinkingbatshit Wed 13-Oct-21 22:05:12

Oh @Scoleah, you have my sympathy - it’s awful to keep sending them back to the hornets nest every day isn’t it?! Mine has started to take herself off somewhere with a book at breaktime (she finds a spot where there’s a member of staff close by just in case) which I think passes the time and takes her mind off it. Social media makes everything so much harder too - you always know when you’re left out even when you’re not at school - it’s brutal. And so much for all the #bekind bollocks….hasn’t exactly caught on has it?!

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