Hello , I’m a single parent and our child is 6 months old. She was born at 33 weeks. Me and her father were together until she was about 2 months old. He spent a month here caring for her with me when we went into another lockdown at the end of October, some of the time being in the NICU and the rest at my flat. After that month was over and we went into another lockdown, he could hardly find time to come down, because he had clients. I had told him he is welcome to come down whenever to see baby. He lives a 2 hour train ride away from me and I was going up with him so his family could see baby even after we split. I decided I wanted to stop staying with him as it was making me unhappy. I haven’t let him take baby up there without me, his sister had warned me while I was pregnant how controlling his mother was. She told me she does this Caribbean tradition where they stretch the baby. (Pull babies limbs) She also said she’d rub the roof of babies mouth to create a nose bridge? While I was there last time, without informing me his mother fed her plantain milk. (She shreds plantain boils it, then strains it and uses that liquid to put her formula into. She also blows up our baby’s nose to get bogeys out. I told her I didn’t like this but kind of she dismissed what I was saying. She also took our daughter out to go see her friends without informing me where she was going. I haven’t let him take her overnight up there without me as I am afraid about what his mother it’s going to do. He lives with her. Last week I took her up to his house so he could see her, I let him have her from 10-7pm in which time he left her to go see his client and his mum looked after baby. He’s told me he’s getting a mediator. I haven’t stopped him from seeing her at all, only taking her up there without me. Would I be able to refuse overnight stays, or Atleast until she’s older? Having baby around his mum during the day is already nerve wracking as it is as I don’t know what she will do. Also wondering what would be reasonable access for dad? Any advice? Thank you
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