I have two DSs - 8yo and 6yo.
Their current screen time is an hour of TV in the morning so that DH and I can get ready for work. They then get half an hour in the afternoon on the computer or on a spare iPad we have with heavy parental controls on it, but only after homework and instrument practice is done. They usually spend their time using coding apps to create their own games or school related stuff like Reading Eggs, Get Epic or Maths Prodigy. They get a bit of extra time if they’re doing something like Microbit or Raspberry Pi with their dad as he’s teaching them proper programming and circuit-building. DH has zero interest in games consoles and can’t see why I’m going around in circles about it - he can’t see any point in them.
Pre-Covid they had limited access to a games console at their school breakfast club, so I had my guilt assuaged that they knew their way around Minecraft and FIFA because of this but it wasn’t something I had to police. They at least didn’t look like complete know-nothings around their friends.
Obviously this is now currently not happening and they won’t be going back to breakfast club after lockdown for various reasons.
They both want a games console. I am perfectly happy with the amount of screen time they get and DO NOT want something else I have to bargain and negotiate with them about - it’s why they’ve never had their own tablets. They’re creative and terrific at entertaining themselves - on the rare occasion they claim to be bored, they’ve found themselves something to do within less than 30 seconds and I don’t want this to turn into begging for gaming time, which I’m pretty sure it would. Outside of Covid, they also have lots of activities like dancing, gymnastics, music and swimming that I want to get them to easily, without having to prise a controller out of their protesting hands.
Conversely, I’m fully aware that gaming is how kids today socialise. Two of DS1’s closest friends ‘meet’ regularly via Switch to play MarioKart together and that makes me feel a little sorry for DS1. I don’t know how much I’m affecting their social interaction in holding out on a console - DS1’s teacher describes him as ‘everyone’s friend’ and he gets along with absolutely everyone so it seems OK for now but I don’t want him to get excluded because his parents are ‘old fashioned’.
Also for context - I’m an ex-gamer. I feel like I wasted hours/days/weeks/months of my teens and twenties parked in front of a console and I do not want my bright, energetic boys heading the same way. I’d also rather not have a console in the house as I bordered on having an addiction and I’d rather not have the temptation quite frankly (although playing a bit of Kart with my DSs also has some appeal...).
Thoughts??
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ElphabaTheGreen · 15/02/2021 06:10
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