Every day is exactly the same

[tiredftm]

I’m just fed-up really. I’m a first time mum to a gorgeous 9 month old baby. Every day is almost exactly the same, because there’s nowhere to go, no one to see, nothing to do except the same old walks in our very boring and not particularly nice area. Now the weather has turned miserable so even the usual boring walk is out.

I seem to spend all day cooking, cleaning, washing, tidying and feeding DS. I did batch cook a load of stuff last month but have almost come to the end of that now, so this week will be another big cooking week - joy.

I think the crappy weather has made me feel even worse. I just want to go sit in a cafe, go for a weekend away, meet a friend somewhere that’s not the sodding cold and muddy park or go to a baby group indoors without having to socially distance or wear the dreaded facemask.

Not sure what the point of this post is really - just needed a rant. If you got this far then thanks for reading.

[Sls668]

My baby is 12 weeks and I feel exactly the same. I love having her, she’s amazing and I really enjoy our time together but I’m just so bored. We walk the dog, go to my mums and that is literally all we can do! I want to be able to go to a couple of classes or baby groups or just meet friends for a coffee somewhere inside. Obviously I have no advice but just felt like moaning along with you!

[Bringallthebiscuits]

Same... my current baby is my second child and it was so much easier being a mum a few years ago. It’s miserable now, only being able to meet people shivering in the cold, no playgroups to go to, only children for company. Trying to home school my eldest around a toddler doesn’t work either!

[brushlaptop]

I have a gorgeous little 14 month old and feel exactly the same. It's really hard. Really hope the lockdown is lifted soon

[TheGonnagle]

If it makes you feel any better I don’t think it’s a baby thing! My dd is almost 11 and every day is exactly the bloody same here too. Frankly, this year is bollocks. Roll on spring and I hope you all get to enjoy your lovely squashy babies out and about really soon.

[user1493413286]

I feel like that; my maternity leave is coming to an end and I feel sad that it’s been like this.

[Onedropbeat]

I’m on mat leave and going back to work next month and I’m so down about it too

What a year to have off

The monotony is almost deafening


On a different level I’m feeling way more nervous about returning to work this time as I’ve not left baby with anyone yet. We’ve been together the whole time

Baby number 1 was having regular visits to grandparents where I was able to go shopping or do some exercise and have some peace and quiet to myself so I wasn’t so nervous about leaving him

[Avvii]

Same, OP! My DS is almost 13 months. It’s awful, isn’t it. I feel so sad most of the time.

[tiredftm]

It’s miserable now, only being able to meet people shivering in the cold

This is what gets me down - it’s so crap standing in a freezing cold and muddy park.

Honestly the constant cooking and preparing food is really getting to me too. It feels like a full time job at times.

I feel so lethargic and low on energy.

[Jigglyjugs]

It's horrible. My DS is 2 thus month, so has spent half his life in lockdown. He gets really cross when we go to the supermarket now because it's the only place I take him except for a walk, which are sporadic with the amount of rain we've had.

[Buttercupcup]

OP I feel the same Iv got a 6 month old and maternity leave has been hard! I’m due back to work in 10 weeks and I’m torn between so excited to get back and see people in the real world, terrified (I’m going back as a nurse in a area that is hit hard by covid) and anxious that my little girl is going to nursery 3 days per week after spending 0 time with anyone other me/dad/brother! I’m also quite pissed off Iv not had a load of lovely coffee dates, weekends away to my parents in the lakes and DH got made redundant in lockdown one and is now out of the house 6.30-6 working his arse off in a shite job to pay the bills. I’m a bundle of over the moon in love with little one/pissed off/tired/anxious/lonely my emotions don’t know quite what to do! Sending tea cake flowers and wine!!
When this is over I’m having a ceremonial burning of the puddle suit and wellies and if anyone suggests going to a sodding park this summer if there isn’t Prosecco and friends involved I refuse!

[Letsallscreamatthesistene]

I have a 10 month old and my entire mat leave has been like this. Im a key worker and went back to work early for a bit of variety in my life. My mat leave has been rubbish.

[PotteringAlong]

Mine are 8, 6 and 4 and I feel the same! I think this is just the state of the world at the minute

[FTEngineerM]

Me too, DC is 8m and I’m going back to work soon

[HamSandwichKiller]

It must be awful. I have a 7 year old and while the days are endless it's not the same as having a baby at all. He can speak to his friends and chats away endlessly (Minecraft ), but with a baby you don't get so much back. It must be such a lonely maternity experience.

[Thatwentbadly]

I have a 4.5 yr old and a 1.5 yr old and other than no home school and DH isn’t working at weekends every day is the same.

[tiredftm]

Thank goodness the vaccine rollout is happening quickly, because I don’t think I can take much more of this. I’ve been fine for ages but it’s suddenly finally got to me - I think because of the crap weather (and maybe because there is kind of an end in sight thanks to the vaccines?!)

[Kayleighwood]

I'm so fed up with this lock-down, i wasn't cut out for home schooling at all, i feel i spend most of my time pulling my hair out

[fatima2019]

i have 8 months old daughter, and i am enjoying time with her but during this lockdown its very difficult not to meet my friends , hope all this virus thing will end soon

[ApolloandDaphne]

I have no children at home now and everyday is still like Groundhog Day. I think it is a lockdown thing in general.

[modgepodge]

I’ve got an almost 2 year old and feel the same. I work 4 days and actually dread the weekends...there’s nothing to look forward to. At least when I’m working my child is with other children and mostly having a nice time and I’m distracted by work. Weekends are go for a walk and playground trip, come home, watch tv and play with toys. I know I’m slipping in to depression but everything that would help me is illegal.

[Bringallthebiscuits]

@ApolloandDaphne I think it’s true that it’s a lockdown thing but also I think it’s maybe a bit harder doing lockdown with small children. If I didn’t have them to worry about I could just do things I enjoy, like baking/drawing/watching films/reading. But now I have to entertain them all day long instead, at a time when all the usual options to entertain them are shut and we can’t even meet up with friends or family for a play.

[tiredftm]

I think that sums it up for me @Bringallthebiscuits! Add to that the fact that DS is still not mobile and I’m exhausted trying to entertain him for hours at a time.

[Namechange200121]

Feel totally the same, I’m actually going back to work after 9 months rather than the year as it’s been a rubbish mat leave and I’m desperate for DC to go to nursery a couple of days a week to get out and get socialised! We did manage to do a couple of baby sensory and swimming classes during the various lifted lockdowns but not a lot in almost 9 months! It really is like Groundhog Day isn’t it, I think everyone feels the same and yes! Why is there so much cleaning, tidying, washing, washing up?! hang in there ladies x

[becca3210]

@tiredftm I hear you. Maybe take some of the pressure off in terms of the cooking. My 9 month old regularly has quick bits eg. toast with various spreads, scrambled eggs, left over bits from our dinner etc.

[Navilana]

to all the lovely mums with babies. And the ones that have to WFH, or have older children.

It is hard. At some point you fall into a routine, which isn't bad in itself, but under these circumstances, I can totally understand you all feeling bored/not upto anything/pissed off...

It might help to find the time to do something for yourself, like painting, drawing or just a small DIY. Something you used to like, or would like to try doing. You could also write down things you plan/wish to do with the baby, and why you want to do that. It could be a lovely personal, funny,... keepsake for your child. Just some ideas to keep the time of lockdown uplifting for your families. Or crash on the couch in a cozy outfit and allow yourself to do nothing, together with your baby/child.

We'll get out of this situation , you can do it!