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When do you think it's okay to top and tail?

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sweettooth45 Sun 03-Jan-21 15:00:55

I just had DS yesterday is it okay for me to top and tail him ?

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sweettooth45 Sun 03-Jan-21 15:02:36

I'm a new mum btw

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herechickchickchickchick Sun 03-Jan-21 15:03:31

Huh?

Terracottasaur Sun 03-Jan-21 15:04:00

Yes, if he needs it - he might not though!

QforCucumber Sun 03-Jan-21 15:04:34

Neither of my ds had a proper bath for around 6 days. Do what you want to do.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz Sun 03-Jan-21 15:05:16

Do you mean give him a wash?

MargeryMcLatchie Sun 03-Jan-21 15:05:26

Washing him you mean? Yes of course.
I gently bathed both of mine on the second day (in plain water) to get the blood and yuck off; some people say that's too soon but we didn't have any problem.
Congratulations btw flowers

KatherineJaneway Sun 03-Jan-21 15:05:29

I thought top and tail were sleeping arrangements confused

scrivette Sun 03-Jan-21 15:06:07

I didn't give my babies a bath until after their cord dropped off/about 2 weeks, just topped and tailed.

New2020 Sun 03-Jan-21 15:06:11

I think we waited 5days...we were both pretty she'll shocked but didn't want the midwife to think we weren't keeping baby clean

Youvegotafriendinme Sun 03-Jan-21 15:06:27

I’m assuming by Top and tail him you mean as in bath him not sleep too to tail? grin
When I had DS 4 I was told to not bath him for at least a week/10 days because he was premature and something to do with his skin still having the vernix on it and it was best to keep it there for a bit. How that advice is now, I don’t know. I don’t see why you need to bath him yet to be honest but of course no harm will be done just don’t use any chemicals, water is fine

Megan2018 Sun 03-Jan-21 15:09:48

The longer you leave it the better for their skin. I didn’t clean anything other than bum or mouth for the first 2 weeks to protect her skin.

yankeedoodledandee Sun 03-Jan-21 15:10:19

If you mean cleaning your baby you should be 'tailing' anyway when you change a nappy. The top bit? I'm not sure.

herechickchickchickchick Sun 03-Jan-21 15:11:08

I take top and tail to be sleeping arrangements too

So confused

lcdododo Sun 03-Jan-21 15:14:19

Absolutely fine.
However there is a lot of evidence to suggest that waiting a while before they get a bath is better

linerforlife Sun 03-Jan-21 15:14:37

Goodness me people are being deliberately difficult here. "Top and tail" means to wash face and bum of a new baby. You're fine to do this OP. Use some cooled, boiled water and cotton wool (pads are best). It's also a good idea to gently wipe round the cord stump too. Don't double dip the cotton wool in the water. So use a fresh piece every time you put it in the water bowl, and start with the face and move on to the cord stump then their bottom. Congratulations on your new baby!

yankeedoodledandee Sun 03-Jan-21 15:17:17

Goodness me people are being deliberately difficult here. "Top and tail" means to wash face and bum of a new baby.

I had no idea. I guess based on a few comments above but tbh I don't think anyone is being 'difficult' for not knowing this term. It does much more commonly get used in the context of sleeping arrangements.

MindyStClaire Sun 03-Jan-21 15:52:31

linerforlife

Goodness me people are being deliberately difficult here. "Top and tail" means to wash face and bum of a new baby. You're fine to do this OP. Use some cooled, boiled water and cotton wool (pads are best). It's also a good idea to gently wipe round the cord stump too. Don't double dip the cotton wool in the water. So use a fresh piece every time you put it in the water bowl, and start with the face and move on to the cord stump then their bottom. Congratulations on your new baby!

Exactly this. Maybe it's a recent term? I have young children and it's commonly used among parents of babies I know.

bloodywhitecat Sun 03-Jan-21 15:58:00

@MindyStClaire Not that recent, I am 57 and I topped and tailed my babies (and still top and tail my foster babies). OP, top and tail is fine, newborns don't need a bath, I think it is good for their skin to not bath them in the early days. Congratulations on your new arrival.

sweettooth45 Sun 03-Jan-21 16:57:00

Lol sorry the midwife said top and tail unless she got that wrong my apologies 😫

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Evenstar Sun 03-Jan-21 17:02:25

My DM referred to washing a baby that way, and I called it that when mine were small, eldest is 30. I even had what was referred to as a Top and Tail bowl with 2 compartments from Mothercare so I don’t think it is an unknown phrase confused

OP you are fine to wash baby or give a gentle bath as others said 🙂

greenemerald Sun 03-Jan-21 17:05:29

I've heard of this expression also, don't worry OP lol. It's fine to do this. I did it myself for my newborn at first before his first bath

BikeRunSki Sun 03-Jan-21 17:14:55

I remember the terminology “top and tail” when my sister was baby, and she is in her late 40s. Anyway, it can also mean siblings/friends sleeping with their heads at opposite ends of the same single bed. I thought this thread was going to be about the age at which this becomes inappropriate.

Figgyboa Sun 03-Jan-21 17:18:35

linerforlife

Goodness me people are being deliberately difficult here. "Top and tail" means to wash face and bum of a new baby. You're fine to do this OP. Use some cooled, boiled water and cotton wool (pads are best). It's also a good idea to gently wipe round the cord stump too. Don't double dip the cotton wool in the water. So use a fresh piece every time you put it in the water bowl, and start with the face and move on to the cord stump then their bottom. Congratulations on your new baby!

I've never heard this term used for washing of a newborn. Only for sleeping arrangements. We're not being difficult!!

Ticklemynickel Sun 03-Jan-21 17:25:45

Mine gets little wipe over with a wash cloth every morning. She seems to get loads of milk in her neck creases so needed! Bath every 4 days or so at the moment.

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