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lost my rag with dd

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Maxtry Fri 04-Dec-20 23:05:17

Feel like worst mum. Have totally lost my s$%t three times in last fortught and realky shouted at dd9. She is such a good girll. It was over the mess of the house and screaming arguments between her and dd3. Am not usually like this but seriously flew off handle. And its her birthday weekend feel so awful. Gosh being a mummy is an emotional roller coaster. Feel like I need strategies not to lose my rag...

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JiltedJohnsJulie Sat 05-Dec-20 00:11:13

Has she caused the mess or was it the mess of the house getting you down do you think?

Ohalrightthen Sun 06-Dec-20 09:27:15

I think its very important that, at 9, you speak to her about what happened. Explain why you got angry. Explain that you shouldn't have shouted. Apologise for shouting at her. Explain what you should have done instead. Ask for her suggestions on how you bith can avoid situations like this going forwards - ie how she can help you with the mess.

The most important thing here is that you discuss and apologise. If you want her to be able to control her temper, you need to model the same behaviour, and take the same responsibility for your screwups as you would expect her to do for hers.

Ihaveoflate Sun 06-Dec-20 12:16:33

Absolutely agree with pp - it's not about the rupture; it's how you repair it that counts.

MrsMaker88 Sun 06-Dec-20 17:08:56

Hey. No advice really but just to say I’m really struggling with a short fuse right now. My kids are awesome but they are not listening to me enough right now. It’s depressing, I feel like I do so much for them and don’t have anything fun in my life to lift my spirits. Do you feel the same at all?
I’m putting some thought into better consequences and treats I can use, rather than flipping my lid.

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