You’ll have to forgive me as this is going to seem extraordinarily negative. I have an almost 20 month old who has been angry since the day she was born. We worked out she has a cows milk allergy but I still think something else is going on as she’s way beyond what I consider a normal baby. She’s my fourth. She spent pretty much her first year screaming. In April, just after her first birthday I went to the GP and asked for help, which came in the way of advice to stop breastfeeding and to start antidepressants. That did help ME, as I felt less tied to the sofa with my boobs out constantly as it was at that point the only way to calm her. Stupidly I stopped taking the antidepressants after a few months. But she still spends most days miserable, ear splitting screams and throwing herself about. We are under a consultant that we’ve seen a few times but it’s very obvious she thinks I’m neurotic and that we indulge dd. Dd still won’t really eat much. I have a 12 year old with autism and the longer this goes on the more my alarm bells are ringing. I first suspected at abojt this age, but again no professional would take me seriously. Having gone through the last soul destroying decade getting his diagnosis, ehcp and special school placement I am well used to professionals not taking me seriously.
I feel at the end of what I can cope with. Dh is doing all he can but tbh he’s not the most patient and when he’s tired he snaps which makes me on edge too. I’m pretty sure I’m depressed and I’m constantly questioning my marriage and am fighting an urge to constantly just walk out on everyone. My 12 year old is the only thing that stops me tbh. The others would cope without me but he couldn’t.
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20 months in and it’s just not getting easier. I feel on the edge of what I can cope with
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AwkwardAsAllGetout · 29/11/2020 09:01
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