Dd has always been quite sensitive and gets anxious about being apart from me.
After a better than expected start to high school mornings are beginning to unravel a bit.
The pattern tends to be that she gets into a state about some aspect of her appearance-usually her hair not being right and makes herself late to leave the house. Then gets into a worse state because she is late and doesn’t want to get into trouble and it all results in a spiral of stress and tears.
So far school have been understanding and have asked what they can do to help but we’re both at a bit of a loss.
I make sure she gets up with plenty of time but these issues tend to manifest as the time to leave gets closer.
I’ve tried being kind and offered to help with the hair but that’s never been successful.
I’ve tried leaving her to be late-that made her hysterical and then we had to wait until she’d calmed down before she eventually went in
She’s had her phone confiscated-not that bothered-maybe needs to happen for longer?
I’ve talked about what might be the issue-possibly a lot of tests and comparing of results.
She’s got nice friends-that doesn’t seem to be the issue.
She’s past the stage where i think it’s appropriate to drag her kicking and screaming to school. I want to help but it doesn’t sit well to be pandering to her strops about her appearance even though I know it’s a big deal at that age.
Sorry for steam of consciousness. It’s stressing the whole house out
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Stressful mornings with anxious tween
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Wootamess · 14/11/2020 12:10
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