I'm about to go back to work after 10 months of mat leave. DH has just started paternity leave and will be off till Christmas.
DD is a good sleeper - she usually sleeps through until about 530, and then is up for the day.I think this is pretty great for a 10 month old.
But that's not always been the case, she was a colicky newborn and spent a loooooong time waking every 90 minutes.
DH was not helpful during this. He likes his lie ins (don't we all), and of course was working so I've done 99% of overnight and early morning parenting so far, including at weekends and holidays.
Now that DH is doing some early mornings he has realised that they're not fun, and wants to share them rather than him doing all of them during the week. Which does sound totally fair, especiallly as I BF first thing so I'm awake anyway.
But I think I'm owed some slack after doing everything for the first 10 months. I won't have lie ins, but I want some time, on significantly more than 50% of mornings before work, to wash my hair/ read the papers/ whatever.
I'm torn because what he's proposing is quite reasonable. I want to be fair, because slacking in the way he did is shitty.
But otoh, why should he get benefits which he didn't give to me? He's only doing a few months parental leave, when DD is far more easy than she was a as a colicky newborn, so part of me thinks he should just suck it up.
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CarrotCakeSupprise · 11/11/2020 08:08
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