Sleep deprivation making me unwell

[JKDcot]

Hi

Not sure if anyone has any advice. My son is 4 months and not sleeping well. Assume this is the usual regression... however. I can’t sleep during the day and struggle to sleep in between night feeds. I am slowly going insane with 3-4 hours sleep a night.

My husband helps out where he can but works full time so I don’t want to push more responsibility into him.

Help? Please tell me it gets better

[Aimzxo]

My baby is 8 months old, every sleep regression is a killer and I know its hard to think about when your in the thick of it but nothing is forever its temporary, im currently in 8 month sleep regression which is slowly killing me off lol your not alone mama xx

[ByTheStarryNight]

It will get better, but I know jow horrible you feel now. It's really hard.

You say you can't sleep in the day, is that because you don't have the opportunity, or can't fall asleep?

If your husband works a regular Mon to Fri pattern:

Could your husband do the lion's share on friday and Saturday nights so you get to rest then?

On Sun to Thurs nights, do you go to bed early enough? So if your husband is home by 6pm, say, you go to bed at 7pm til midnight uninterrupted, then he sleeps uninterrupted midnight til 6am, for example?

It won't be forever, but split it into shifts and eventually you'll get your evenings back, and sleep through.

[Bets2801]

It’s so tough isn’t it, my daughter is yet to sleep well! My husband also works full time but in the end I had to insist that he does 2 nights per week..this helped me a lot mentally as if I had a really bad night I only had to get through another 2 or 3 until I had a break rather than endlessly not sleeping! She still doesn’t sleep at 8mths but it’s made it a lot more manageable.

I’m the same too, can never sleep during the day always wired even if I’ve had no sleep! Good luck 4 months is a particularly brutal time so it should ease up.

[Bets2801]

Also you mentioned struggling to sleep in between night feeds...I used to be the same but one thing that really helped me was once I went to bed my phone went to the other side of the room. I used to obsessively track how long she’d slept on a sleep app and be clock watching. When I stopped checking the time / counting how many hours I had left and browsing Mumsnet every night at 3am I managed to switch off more in between night feeds. I bought a kindle also so I could read and not be tempted to check WhatsApp etc

[Itsnoteasyfeelingqueasy]

My husband sleeps 11-7am but does feed before he comes to bed. I do any feeds between 11 and 7. If I get to bed at 9pm I could potentially get 5 hrs before getting up. Could your husband help in this way?

[screamingchild]

My youngest was a bad sleeper for 3 years. I got woken up in the night at least 3 times every singe night. Had to spend everyday looking after both my young children and the severe sleep deprivation made me ill. Anxiety, depression and body aches.

[Hamster555]

I couldn't sleep either it was tough so instead I just sat on my bed and put my head back and sat in peace quietly instead and just enjoyed the quiet time and break on the rare occasions out Lg napped which was for us very little but just that sit down and quiet time to relax made me feel a hell of a lot better so perhaps just try that and eventually some days you may even nod off for a bit x x